Sasha dated Ryan all through high school.

She described: "He treated me terribly. He'd break up with me, threaten to break up with me, stand me up, not call, etc. He managed to turn me against girls who'd been my friends by making me jealous. And I'm not really a jealous person."

Sasha put up with it because she thought Ryan was "the one." And there were other powerful forces pushing them together, namely, her parents. They didn't like him. He was two years older, and during Sasha's freshman and sophomore years, they forbid them to see each other. They had to sneak around. Sasha also says her self-esteem was low. It was a perfect storm of young love.

"I was determined to hang onto him," she says.

Ryan joined the military when he graduated and was sent overseas. He didn't write Sasha very often, but he still expected her to write every day. And he continued to manipulate her. Even though he'd dated other girls while they were sneaking around, he told her she couldn't see anyone else.

Sasha and Ryan made plans to marry when his tour was over. But then he decided to extend his stay. That meant moving their wedding date several months forward. Sasha told him she'd go to college while she waited for him.

Sasha said: "He informed me that going to college was out of the question and if I decided to go, not to bother writing back. By this time, it was senior year, and I was getting fed up. Other boys were noticing me, and I finally broke everything off."

Ryan's response to Sasha was a nasty letter in which he asked, "Who do you think you are?"

Sasha said: "Well, I was the girl who no longer wanted him. Then he decided he wanted me after all, and begged me to take him back. When he came home on leave, I tried to recapture the feelings, but I just couldn't, and we parted as sort-of friends."

Sasha got married, and so did Ryan. After a few years, Sasha got divorced, and so did Ryan. She asked him to take her to her company Christmas party, just as friends. Sasha's boss was there with Cayley. Ryan was introduced to Cayley, and sparks flew. They moved in together a couple of weeks later.

Sasha said: "They lived together on and off for a few years and finally got married. She had affairs right and left, and then finally left him and moved in with another series of guys. Then they got back together. They finally got a divorce."

The next time Sasha saw Ryan was when she was back in her hometown with her "handsome" second husband and her "beautiful year-old baby boy." Sasha says: "I wasn't there to rub my happiness in his face, but I know he was looking at me and thinking that if he'd acted better, it might have been him with a great little family. I hear he's married for the third time. He's never had children."

A few years ago, Sasha ran into Ryan. He apologized to her for the way he had treated her.

She said: "I told him that I felt that the fact that I introduced him to his second wife was vengeance enough. The best revenge, I've learned, is when you don't want it anymore."

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