Relationships are a push-pull dance in which the distance between people must be constantly negotiated. This isn't just about physical space. It's how routines butt up against each other and what happens when domains of control overlap. It's about the room between hearts.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Being in charge requires a variety of qualities. Knowing which is needed and when — that's a skill in and of itself. Today you'll employ masterly powers of discernment.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You're not about to ask the crowd, "How do you like me now?" because you were never doing it for them. You will, however, dig deeper into your own soul and pose that question.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What a feeling! Your strategy is working, and momentum is building. Your goal will move as rapidly toward you as you are moving toward it.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Shadows tell you where the light is being blocked. If you want to get rid of the shadow, you don't try and move the shadow; you move yourself until you're out of the way of looming obstacles. Find the light again.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). As an event draws near, you wonder if you'll ever feel ready. Maybe not. It's a good thing that readiness is irrelevant in acts of inevitability. Once you jump in, you are at the whims of the fall.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Throw some compassion back to your former self. Sympathize with the you who has been in difficult positions. With a soft heart, you'll have few regrets, and the ones you do have will not carry much weight.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Twice-told tales change in the telling. Popular stories are told not twice but hundreds of times. The wise listener keeps an open mind, listening through the filters of fiction and metaphor instead of fact.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Today's cosmic boon is a gift for enjoying yourself, and it will work for others, too. What's best for you will be what's best for everyone around you today.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It's a wonderful thing to find out that you need far less to live and enjoy yourself than you think. Life doesn't have to give you a loss in order for you to come to the conclusion that you want to live lighter.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Which is needed most, courage or tact? Both take a great deal of energy. Tact takes more. In fact, in today's case, tact may be the most courageous move of all.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Some of the ways you see yourself are well-supported, as they align with your talents and roles. Other identity markers are rather arbitrary, and you can change them at any point if you want to.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There's a version of you that was in a relationship long ago. Now you are a new version and the relationship is in the process of updating to accommodate the change. Hold on.
TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (July 6). You are bound for excitement, and you will experience it this year. The investment is a little bit of planning, your creative imagination and a willingness to trade your work for unknown results. Taurus and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 30, 10, 27 and 6.
ASTROLOGICAL QUESTION: "Holiday, guess what sign I am. Also, yes or no?"
The beauty of yes is that it can be steered. As a former student of the theater, I like to follow the cardinal rule of improvisation, which is encapsulated in the two little words "yes, and ..." For many, "yes, and ..." is more than an improvisational rule; it's a lifestyle. The yes is your agreement to and acceptance of whatever life brings. The "and" is your personal stamp. That's the proof that you were here and you made life go in a particular direction. Putting your "and" into the world makes you vulnerable because there's always a risk that what you add is going to be strange, weird and somehow unacceptable. That is precisely what makes "and" an important add-on and a chance to exert your bravery. Life in an "agree and steer" mode is far more interesting, smooth and expansive than a life in "no" mode.
I'm going to guess that you are one of the signs of duality, like Gemini, the duality of twins; Libra, the duality of balancing one thing against another; or Scorpio, the duality of life and death.
I'm going with Scorpio.
How did I do?
CELEBRITY PROFILES: "Be kind whenever possible," says the 14th Dalai Lama of Tibet. He adds, "It is always possible." He was born when the sun and Pluto were in nurturing Cancer and Mercury was in quick-thinking, eloquent Gemini. It would seem the Dalai Lama's mission of compassion, tolerance, interreligious harmony and peace is evergreen in its relevance and needed in the world now more than ever.
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