There's a mutually satisfying arrangement to be made as we approach the Aries new moon. First we have to believe that one person's happiness needn't come at the expense of another. Those who start the conversation with the magic question "What do you hope to gain here?" and really listen to the answer will make quick progress.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The time to specialize is after you've tried a broad range of options. Pursue what you're attracted to and curious about and you'll be surprised what interesting luck you turn over.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You're building an inner core of confidence, not willfully, not through props and affirmations, but quietly as you work on what you're good at. Mastering your skills causes you to depend less and less on exterior validation.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You don't have to put yourself out unnecessarily. No one wants you to struggle or be inconvenienced. So step back and ask, "What is the right thing to give?" It's something easy! And it's what's really needed.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Fear is the only enemy. If someone else seems to be in the role of antagonist of your life, consider that the person is not really against you and is, in fact, only animating your fear. Deal with the fear and the antagonist disappears.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Perhaps what should be questioned today isn't the "strange" actions of a few outliers. Rather, it's widespread and common practices committed daily by people accepting an unnatural reality as a matter of fact.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A good idea, meaningful purpose or true principle... these are things that can scale up. It's better to get behind these things than to put your energy behind a particular type of media, business model, tool, trend or the like.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Money is not your biggest motivator. There are so many outcomes you would like to see that are about much more than a financial bottom line. It is experience, not money, that will allow you to move beyond current limitations.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You know intellectually that you're connected to the people who live so far away and have lives very different from your own, though you don't always feel that connection as powerfully as you will today.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). New people gravitate toward you, leaning in to see what you do you with your talent. Your generosity in this regard is a natural instinct for you, easy to follow, with benefits untold.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You really need to remind yourself more often that it's OK if life is easy. Maybe it's just your turn. Why is this something to feel guilty about? When ease comes to you, enjoy it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People often assume that coming across one's passion is always an overwhelming experience, but sometimes a passion creeps up on you, as it will now, in small moments of delight.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). To be charming is a talent and a skill that has nothing to do with being good or bad, or right or wrong, though it often feels good and right to be charmed. Resist charm, or at least check its motivation.
TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (April 4). These things are growing for you this year: family, social circle and realm of influence. And don't worry; the change will be easy and gradual and won't take up too much time. In fact, so long as you're willing to let people help you, you'll find yourself freer to focus on projects and talents you normally don't get to work on. Leo and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 40, 21, 4 and 28.
ASTROLOGICAL QUESTION: "I'm a Virgo who recently did something so weirdly out of character that it really rocked my idea of who I am. Without going into detail, it had to do with a comment (read: rant) I made online that got an overwhelmingly negative response. No one agreed. Everyone thought I was the worst, and there were hundreds of comments telling me all the ways I was wrong, bitter, out-of-touch, mean, etc. In retrospect, my rant didn't need to happen. It was hurtful, not intentionally. And I can see how it was inappropriate. It was also true, but that's not the point.
"Sometimes I'm so bizarre I really can't even get my head around the things I do. It makes me feel afraid and out of control, even though I've never done anything terribly violent or irrevocably weird. I still reject myself. I wish I could be someone else."
Hey, are you, like most Virgos, into becoming a better person? Then I've got great news for you. You're currently in a wormhole on your way to your new and improved iteration! Yes, you heard me right. You've stumbled upon a shortcut. There is, in fact, no quicker path to transformation than soul-cringing, ego-annihilating public humiliation.
Tune in Saturday for more about the bright side of humiliation.
CELEBRITY PROFILES: Robert Downey Jr. appeared in one of his father's films at age 5, igniting a lifelong passion for telling stories through the magical medium of celluloid. The Aries actor has natal Mercury and Venus in the high-energy Aries station juxtaposed by the artistic sensitivity of Saturn, the lessons planet, in Pisces. Upcoming projects include the roles of Iron Man, Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Dolittle.
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