Q: My wife is always getting on me about my bad habits, but I'm now realizing that I should start listening! I love smoking, eating and drinking, but my doctor is giving me the same advice as my wife.

He wants me to cut back and focus on my health. I've tried doing so before but never had any luck.

How can I turn it around?

A: We're all victims of our habits.

As we age, we form regular habits and get set in our own ways. When we have years or decades to create them, it's difficult to escape them, even when our friends and family members try to communicate their concerns. It's usually easier to resist change than to embrace it.

The key to successful long-term change is to do it gradually. If you take on all your issues simultaneously, you'll find yourself stressed and exhausted. Eventually, you'll come to believe that change is impossible and lose all your motivation.

Instead of condemning yourself to burnout, focus on one major problem and alter your lifestyle. What is the one change that would have the most positive impact on your health?

Focus on that habit, and do some reflecting about why you're stuck in that pattern. Lifestyle change requires serious thought and commitment. Once you have a good understanding of your habit, you'll be able to address it.

Most importantly, stick to the plan. Instead of eliminating your vices, replace them with a healthier alternative. Fill your time with other pursuits or enjoyments.

You won't see immediate results. Remind yourself that it takes several weeks to form a new pattern. Plan to be patient for a month before you stop feeling like you're treading water.

In the end, you'll be the one reaping the benefits of your hard work. Don't shortchange yourself! There's always room for improvement. — Doug

TRAVEL TIPS

Q. I haven't traveled for a very long time, as my husband was ill for many years. Sadly, he died two years ago and I've been mourning his loss ever since.

I dearly miss him, but I want to turn over a new leaf and start embracing life again. I'm set to visit my grandchildren in Scotland this year, but I am nervous about flying and being there.

Any advice?

A. When you haven't traveled in several years, it's very intimidating to throw yourself back into the world! But life goes on.

To avoid stress, prepare yourself before traveling. Ask around for advice about the airport, like current baggage or safety regulations and procedures. Avoid rooting through your luggage, and keep your passport on hand while checking in.

Be careful with money. You never know who is around, so keep your valuables out of sight and secure. If something does happen, you don't want to lose everything at once. Don't bring all your belongings with you every day; important documents or excess cash can be left at your hotel when not needed.

Finally, don't let minor stressors ruin your trip. Enjoy your new adventure! — Emma, Doug's granddaughter

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at [email protected]. Emma, Doug's granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.