Q: I have always been jealous of people who can make others laugh.

My father was gifted at entertaining everyone — somehow, he always knew just the right words to break any tense situation (and when to do so!). Unfortunately, I didn't inherit his gift.

What are some secrets to making people laugh?

A: Experts continue to redefine laughter. People find humor in many things, like age, sex, politics, religion and morality. Topics for humor can also vary greatly depending on culture — things don't always translate well to a different audience.

What is true is that almost everyone enjoys being with people who make them laugh. Laughter is a sign that someone feels recognized as part of a group.

A person with a well-developed sense of humor lives with a different point of view. Humor helps us connect with others, enjoy life more and can even help those suffering from serious illness, especially if it's long term.

Experts report that laughing generates a sense of well-being, reduces stress, alleviates personal concerns, lowers blood pressure and re-energizes people.

Making other people laugh requires practice, timing and awareness. Think about the last time you laughed, and ask yourself why you did.

With friends, share some things that have made you laugh. Pay attention to how they react — it may be different! Not everyone has the same sense of humor or the same set of expectations. Pay attention to what they find entertaining.

Humor often happens when we recognize the difference between reality and expectation. Try to become more observant of the world around you, and tailor your remarks to your audience.

Most of all, don't fret about it! Everybody has their own natural style of humor, and yours may be a little more laid-back than your father's.

Focus on what's important: enjoying the time you spend with others. — Doug

GIVING BACK

Q: I've never thought that volunteering was for me, but after retiring, I'm looking for more ways to fill my time. My neighbor spends most days working with several different organizations. She seems to love it.

Am I missing out?

A: You'll never know if you don't try. Give it a shot, and you can always quit if it's not to your taste.

For many people, volunteering is a source of recreation, socialization and happiness. They feel that they are contributing positively to their community and can better appreciate their own blessings.

When you volunteer, you can meet people outside of your current social sphere. You can learn new things or get to know people from a variety of backgrounds.

The next time you talk with your neighbor, ask about what they do and why. Everybody gets something different out of their experiences.

You may not feel immediately invested, but make a reasonable commitment. Maybe try a monthlong trial period.

One of the best things about volunteering is that it's flexible. It's up to you to choose when, where and how to volunteer. Find an organization that aligns with your interests, and call it up this week! — Emma, Doug's granddaughter

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at [email protected]. Emma, Doug's granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.