January 17, 2020

By Marcy Sugar

By Kathy Mitchell

January 17, 2020 4 min read

Dear Annie: I am a 29-year-old woman with a medium build and long, thick black hair that's never been cut. I am also a virgin.

My family members continue to ask me about a boyfriend, and I tell them that I have never been with a man. They think something is wrong with me. I am a perfectly normal woman, and I dream of being married and having children one day, but until I am blessed with the right man, I will continue to wait. I know that one day, he will come, and there is no hurry.

I have met several guys over the years, but they are no good for me. All they think about is sex. I am not walking around with a "use me" sign on my forehead. I don't know how often people meet through your column, but if it is possible in some way, I would like to meet "Mr. Lonely in Pennsylvania," who is also a virgin. — Also Lonely in Chesapeake, Va.

Dear Lonely: We don't match up people through our column. Ever. It would be too dangerous. And we hope you aren't assuming that all virginal people are alike. That is only one aspect of what you have in common. The rest could be just as "no good" as the other men you have met. Please try to meet guys through your church or other social groups and through mutual friends and relatives. The more men you meet the likelier you are to find that someone special. Good luck.

Dear Annie: I think Overlooked feels unimportant in her grandson's life to not be included in photos, whether it was unintentional or not. It is sad that some family members do not realize how hurtful their actions can be to those who love them. I agree an apology from the bride or mother of the bride would go a long way to heal the hurt.

Here's what happened to me. Last summer, my granddaughter told us that she and her fiance had eloped, but we found out that they had come home and had a ceremony at her church. When I asked why we had not been included, I was told that only parents and siblings had attended and that if they had invited us, there would not have been enough food.

Shortly after that, they posted photos of the wedding on Facebook, and the pictures included my daughter-in-law's boss, his family, her friend and the friend's family, as well as my granddaughter's other grandparents. — It Still Hurts

Dear Still Hurts: These situations are terribly sad, but unlike Overlooked, it seems as though your situation was deliberate. Do you have a good relationship with your granddaughter? Your son? Your daughter-in-law? It sounds as if there is a great deal of room for improvement. You cannot do anything to change someone else's behavior, but you can examine your own and see whether there is anything you can do to warm things up. We think it would be worth it.

Dear Annie: You printed a series of responses to the letter from Too Small, the teenage boy who is worried that his short stature means he will never have a girlfriend. The one from Redondo Beach, California, referred to Marine Lt. Gen. Victor Krulak, who was also not very tall.

There are many stories about the general. My favorite is in reference to his stature. One day, during his first year at the Naval Academy, he was confronted by an upperclassman: "Just how tall are you, mister?" His beautiful response: "Three inches taller than Napoleon, sir!"

I worked for the general in 1957. My first mistake happened when I was introduced to him on my first day on the job. I said, "I am looking forward to a very enjoyable tour, General." He replied, "You had better reserve judgment on THAT, Captain."

Thanks for listening. — James B. Vanairsdale, Lt. Col., USMC, Ret.

This Classic Annie's Mailbox column was originally published in 2015. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at www.creators.com.

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