Dear John, I've been seeing Jack for almost two years, and we've been happy. Today, however, I saw his truck parked in another town and I flipped out! I turned around and parked near the truck, and then I waited for about 10 minutes for him to come out. When he didn't, I left to come home.

He just called me, and guess what? He saw me out there, and he is very upset by this because he feels that I don't trust him — which is in fact my problem. I did not go out looking for him, but since I saw the truck, I jumped to a bad conclusion. I'm worried that I might have really done it this time! How can I remedy this situation? —Screwed Up in College Station, Tex.

Dear Screwed Up, I'm glad that you recognize the fact that you do have trust issues that are affecting your relationship. These may stem from unresolved feelings you have from past relationships — either with this partner, a former partner or a parent's past behavior. Trust is the hardest issue to resolve. You must try to do this, however, if you are ever able to salvage this relationship and move beyond your fears.

Start by writing a "feeling letter" in which you'll do the following: 1) acknowledge your anger, 2) express any feelings of sadness from this past hurt and distrust, 3) Face up to your fears and, 4) discuss your future hopes. You should also write a "response letter," which will give you the answers of support you are truly seeking from those who love you now and the ones who have hurt you in the past. Its format will include: "I understand ...", "I am sorry ...", "Please forgive me for ..." and "You deserve ..." Then, apologize to your boyfriend, and ask him to bear with you as you go through this process. If he truly loves you, he will give you the support you need.

Dear John, Just during this past year I started talking to an ex-boyfriend, Don, who was going through a divorce when his wife was killed in an automobile accident. While we re-connected before the accident, he says he is still in love with her. I know he needs time to recover from her loss, but how do I handle talking to him when he only wants to be friends for now? I try to stay in close contact, but it hasn't worked, and now I don't know what else to do. —In Limbo in Louisville, Ky.

Dear In Limbo, Don may have remorse over the break-up and guilt over her death. This is affecting his perception of that relationship, and of course, his current feelings for any future relationships. He will need time to rationalize his loss and its impact on his life going forward. Give him time. You have already offered your support. If and when he is ready, he will reach out to you. In the meantime, live your life to the fullest — with or without Don.

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