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DEAR SUSAN: I guess that at this stage of life (age 63), I'm willing to be the exact same man a woman wants, as long as that doesn't involve change. Sounds kind of selfish at first hearing, but I expect to return the favor — or not find her …Read more.
Courage
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Womanstrong
DEAR SUSAN: Your quiz question about whether strong, assertive women turn men off made me write to you. Even men with assertive, strong mothers seem to like women who are bubbly and interesting without being too independent. Often, it is hard for me …Read more.
Sorting Sex, Part 1
The best way to do these questions justice is to read them through in one sitting, let them marinate awhile and then read them again and give your responses. Some may trigger immediate responses; others take more thought. But however you approach …Read more.
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Counting FreedomsDEAR SUSAN: Reading a recent reader's reasons for being content with her singleness, I could really relate to all of them. I found myself saying something like "Amen, sister!" after each one because her past relationship sounded like mine — with a man who had no room in his life for anything but himself and his own needs. But instead of sitting around feeling sorry for herself for "not having a man," she's counting her rediscovered freedoms. My own relationship lasted about three years because I thought I had to put up with his selfishness in order to "keep" him, believing as I did that if you don't have a man in your life, you are a loser. (Sadly, a lot of women still think that way.) I could kick myself for the things I put up with and the sacrifices I made when he was definitely not worth it. Today I realize that I would have been much better off without him — not that anyone could have convinced me of that at the time. I hope that reader finds a man like the one in my life now. He's so easygoing it's unbelievable! This is by far the best relationship I've ever had. I hope it lasts forever. I do what I like; he does what he likes; we meet somewhere in the middle. That is how a relationship should be! I didn't know this kind of thing existed when I was with the other guy. Seems to me that the other reader was celebrating her freedom from selfish, whiny, my-way-or-the-highway men. — From the "Single File" blog DEAR BLOGGER: Congratulations, woman! Your roar is heavenly music to zillions of "Single File" readers, many of them male.
DEAR SUSAN: When my first husband and I decided to divorce, we went to one attorney and worked out a consent agreement. It took some time, though, and she billed by the hour, but if couples have children, I advise them to work things out with one mediator/attorney rather than fight it out with two. When my current husband had "had it" with legal eagles and court dates, he offered $10,000 to a lawyer if she could "get it over with." By the end of the week, the consent agreement was signed and submitted to a judge for signing, which he promptly did. One bill is better than two! — From the "Single File" blog DEAR BLOGGER: My dear mother (bless her soul) often said that getting married should be much more difficult — whereas slipping off a wedding band permanently should be a kinder, simpler process. (She also foresaw an Amazonian culture in which women would make the weighty decisions and men would be in the picture solely to procreate and tend to babies' needs.) It may be a while before her predictions are borne out, but society's direction is clearly trending her way. Having been in her aura for 20 years and being the recipient of her genes, I would think things over countless times before ranting against her vision. Yes, bless her soul. Have a question for Susan? You can reach her directly at sumor123@aol.com. COPYRIGHT 2013 CREATORS.COM 
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