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When Dad/Gramps Just Ain't Interested
Dear Margo: By his choice, my father-in-law, "Herman," has had little to do with my wonderful family. He is a negative, toxic individual whom I don't trust given his manipulative and abusive behavior. When his wife finally moved out some …Read more.
When You Think You've Heard Everything ... You Haven't
Dear Margo: I have a doozy for you. My first cousin, "Lily," is a living, breathing waste of space. This girl had her first child at 15, her second at 17. Subsequently, she's had two more. When her first child was 4 months old, Lily's …Read more.
Beyond Tasteless, Not To Mention Tacky
Dear Margo: Can you give me some guidance regarding how to respond to a strange request? A friend we see occasionally got engaged six months ago. He's quite the social butterfly and has a ton of acquaintances. A couple of months ago, his fiancee …Read more.
Marrying a Guy in the Mormon Closet. Oy.
Dear Margo: My wife's 30-year-old daughter is quite immature emotionally and sexually. She has never had a boyfriend. Her father's family is Jewish, but she converted to Mormonism at 18. She has a close friend who is gay, also a Mormon, so he cannot …Read more.
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What To Do When Old Boyfriends Get a Big Hello!Dear Margo: I'm 39 and my girlfriend is 47. We have been together for five years. A couple of times now, she has "run into" two old male friends and spent the whole day with them. She says they were just catching up and reliving old times. Any idea why she had to spend nine to 10 hours with these two older men from her past? — Mike in Michigan Dear Mike: I do have an idea as to why these catch-up sessions last many hours, and I think she is reliving old times ... in every sense of the word, with the emphasis on "reliving." Let's put it this way: Whenever I have run into an old male friend, assuming we decide to have a cup of coffee or a drink, the get-together usually lasts about an hour. I do not think it's believable that anyone spends the equivalent of a workday — plus overtime — with anybody, catching up on anything. So now that my guess is the same as yours — the lady is stepping out — I assume you will proceed in a way that you feel is appropriate. One might surmise that your lady friend's answer to the question "Should old acquaintance be forgot?" is a heartfelt "no." Sorry to give you this news around the holidays. — Margo, realistically Tough Love and DNA Dear Margo: I am in the unhappy position of loving a daughter I don't like. She dropped out of school at 16 and had a baby with the sorriest lowlife she could find. When it didn't work out, we moved her to our town, helped her buy a house and car, and helped with childcare. After a few months, she hooked up with another lowlife, took our grandchild and left town, leaving a pile of bills for us to deal with. Fast-forward to three years later. A nice family adopted my precious twin grandchildren, and my husband and I have custody of the 10-year-old and are in the process of adopting him. I helped my daughter come back to the area, get into a rehab program and find a decent job at the hospital I work for. She is sloppy in her housekeeping and complains that she is overweight. She cries that she has no money, but can afford new tattoos and cigarettes. She's not using street drugs, but uses alcohol and gets prescription drugs from her physician for valid reasons, but without disclosing that she has a history of drug abuse. Frankly, her behavior embarrasses me, and even though our little guy loves his "bio" Mom, I don't think she is a very good influence on him. I have tried so hard to help her, but she wants all the benefits of being a decent, hardworking person while still behaving like trash. My husband says I should write her off, but my Mother's heart keeps holding me back. — Brokenhearted Mom Dear Broke: The good news is that you have your grandson with you. As for your daughter, I'm afraid your husband is right and you must resort to tough love. If she hasn't figured out by now that her choices have been destructive, there is a strong possibility that another way of life is simply beyond her. You have done more than enough. — Margo, conclusively *** Dear Margo is written by Margo Howard, Ann Landers' daughter. All letters must be sent via e-mail to dearmargo@creators.com. Due to a high volume of e-mail, not all letters will be answered. COPYRIGHT 2008 MARGO HOWARD DISTRIBUTED BY CREATORS SYNDICATE, INC.
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