Share Your Life!

By Doug Mayberry

December 21, 2015 3 min read

You Can Write Your Book!

Q: My husband and I are in our late 60s and have experienced a wonderful and dramatic life, which I believe is worth doing. I would like to write a book about it as a legacy and family remembrance. I believe if I could just get started I could finish it. My sister has also suggested the two of us could do it as co-authors. What's your secret for getting started?

A: Writing a book or column only happens if you discipline yourself to do so. Every writer faces the fear of writing. Writing is a lonely and serious undertaking. It requires time, energy, persistence, concentration and reason, and purpose. It demands not only your commitment but your energy, time and concentration. As an example, I write 500 words a week, which is equivalent to nearly two books a year. My reward is the positive feedback I receive from readers. I recommend you wake up an hour earlier every morning. Drink a cup of coffee, do not get dressed, and go back to bed. Grab an inexpensive paper notebook and begin writing a journal about your life experience. Your goal should be to write and rewrite a maximum of 50 words per day. Ask your sister to join in. Set a time deadline to finish and edit your book for printing. In today's book world, there are many self-publishing opportunities that are relatively inexpensive. Gifting each family member a book will be one of the best gifts they will ever receive. Future generations will be grateful.


Q: My husband and I realize what a great life we continue to share. We are healthy, have enough money for our lifestyle, love our adult children and seven grandchildren and are about to retire. Looking back, how can we be so lucky? We focus on positive and pleasant things about our future. However, several of our friends and neighbors are negative about what is happening to them. How can we share our enthusiasm and make them happier and accepting?

A: Here is a short list of positives about aging. Seniors can finally get by with repeating a story as many times as they want without being criticized. You are allowed to misplace your keys for several hours only to learn they are in your other purse or still in the ignition. Selective hearing is a bonus: When you choose not to discuss an issue, you can resolve it by telling your family you did not know that! Now you have the opportunity to reflect on love and relive happy times and memories. You feel less pressure to get things done, can lean on the kids for meals and transportation and enjoy as many naps as you want. Aging permits you to be messier and enjoy less cooking by ordering pizza delivery frequently. And it's OK not to mow your own lawn and hire a cleaning lady. Discuss these benefits with your friends -- BINGO!

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