4 Tips on Telling Your Partner You're Pregnant

By Jennifer Bright

September 29, 2020 5 min read

Early on in the pandemic, people joked that all of this sheltering in place would cause a baby boom. By summer, that appeared to not be the case. In June, the Brookings Institution, a public policy nonprofit, published a report that predicted a decline of between 300,000 and 500,000 births as a result of the pandemic.

Still, plenty of newly pregnant women will be saying to their partners, "Guess what?!"

I remember telling my then-husband that we were expecting. I didn't have long to wait to tell him; he was sitting in the next room! I remember being very excited. He, true to his nature, was much more cautiously optimistic.

Finding out that you're pregnant is a moment you'll remember forever. Telling your partner the news will also become a cherished memory. How will you remember this moment?

Here's what our Mommy M.D.s — doctors who are also mothers — did to share their own good news.

"I took my pregnancy test at the hospital, and my med school classmates knew that I was pregnant before my husband did," says JJ Levenstein, M.D., Fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics, a mom of one grown son and a retired pediatrician in Southern California. "When I took the little stick home with the positive sign, I just rang the bell and stood there with it in front of my face. My husband's jaw dropped, and then he just smiled!"

"I told my husband that I was pregnant as soon as I found out," says Amy J. Derick, M.D., a mom of two sons and a dermatologist in private practice at Derick Dermatology in Barrington, Illinois. "He shared my excitement, and he liked the idea of having two sons. He was so in love with our older son that he was eager to double the fun."

"When I found out I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, my husband and I were living in New York City," says Marra S. Francis, M.D., a mom of six children and an OB-GYN in Helotes, Texas. "We were going out to dinner that night to celebrate his birthday. I put the ultrasound photo into a frame that said 'Daddy and Me,' and I hid it in my purse. When my husband asked if I wanted to order wine, I said, 'I think you should open your last present first.' He knew what it was right away, and he ordered a martini, and I got iced tea."

"I took my first pregnancy test at night when my husband was asleep," says Kerri A. Daniels, M.D., a mom of one daughter and an instructor in the department of pediatrics at the University of Arkansas for Medical Science in Little Rock. "I knew that he would be excited if I thought I was pregnant, and I didn't want him to be disappointed if I wasn't. When the test came back positive, I didn't want to wake my husband, so I planned to wait to tell him until the morning. That lasted about five minutes, and then I woke him up and told him. He wasn't totally with it at first, and he said rather formally, 'Congratulations!' But then, a few minutes later, he woke up the rest of the way, and his excitement set in."

"My third pregnancy caught me completely off guard," says Rallie McAllister, M.D., MPH, mom of three, co-author of "The Mommy MD Guide to Your Baby's First Year," nationally recognized health expert and family physician in Lexington, Kentucky. "My second son was just four months old when I realized I was expecting again. I wanted my then-husband to experience the joyous surprise the same way I had, so I wrapped the pregnancy test strip in a small box and gave it to him on Father's Day. It took my husband a minute or two to understand the meaning of his gift, but when he figured it out, he was just as surprised — and just as happy — as I had been when I watched the 'positive' indicator appear on the test strip a few days earlier."

Jennifer Bright is a mom of four sons, co-founder and CEO of family- and veteran- owned custom publisher Momosa Publishing, co-founder of the Mommy MD Guides team of 150+ mommy M.D.s, and co-author of "The Mommy MD Guide to the Toddler Years." She lives in Hellertown, Pennsylvania. To find out more about Jennifer Bright and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

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