Dear John: I'm a confused 22-year-old woman. Growing up, I was told by my mom that sleeping with men would make me lose my sense of self-worth, and that if I did, I would end up an old maid. How true is this? — Questioning Mom's Wisdom, in Independence, Mo.

Dear Questioning: Every generation has attached their own set of beliefs and standards to this issue. I believe there is no one right or wrong behavior on the issue of premarital sex. It is up to the individual. Certainly, given the fact that you are 22, I assume that you would agree with me that the decision is yours. Premarital sex can cost you your sense of self-worth only if you share in the value system that your mother promotes. As an adult, I think the time has come for you to make your own decision about how and when you choose to share your love.

Dear John: My wife interrupts me all the time. She's a great partner, and there is so much I love about her, but this one annoying habit grinds on my nerves. In truth, I know at times I interrupt her as well. Do you have any suggestions on how we can both stop doing this? — Don't Interrupt, in Spokane, Wash.

Dear Don't: You're certainly not alone. This is a very common complaint, especially for couples that have shared many years together.

Try this: Do your very best to lead by example. Never interrupt her and you'll be surprised to see that in most cases your partner will pick up on what you're doing. Discipline yourself to hold a thought. Be patient and let her say what she wants to say before you speak. Be very patient and try this for six to eight weeks. I think you'll be pleased with the change it will make.

John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." Visit his website, http://www.marsvenus.com, for advice on dating, marriage, parenting, romance and workplace issues. Or email him at [email protected]. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.