Mindfulness isn't always the best approach. Sometimes the mind needs to hand the problem off to another source. The body has wisdom, too. So do the myriad of automatic responses each of us have that we'd be hard-pressed to categorize. In the wake of the intense supermoon, relax back some and let autopilot do its thing.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). There are dynamics at play that raise the stakes for key interactions. Do a practice run in the mirror, in your head, on paper... whatever it takes to work it out and get you ready and confident for the real thing.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Pick a target you can stick with then aim and shoot. Success does not depend on getting it right the first time (or ever, actually). Success depends on repeated efforts toward the same goal.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You're a different person than you were last week. That's why, when you revisit work you did then, you can see the problems. And it's also why you should put today's results in a drawer and come back to it a week from now.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your friends just want to let loose, and prefer your brand of fun. But just because they call on you doesn't mean your own agenda becomes suddenly less important. Keep original plans, especially if they involve only you.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You know what it feels like to be a little too afraid, or too proud, to go with the flow, and this isn't that. The flow is wrong. Resistance may be difficult or even futile but it's your only option. What matters to you most is doing the right thing.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Pay attention to how you use that powerful tool called your voice. Also, there's much to learn in the the voices of others (though much of it is animal-level information that can't be put into words.)
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). As a rule, you see incuriousness as a fault, as it signals self-centeredness and possible intellectual stunting. However, today brings an occasion in which you'll be happy not to bothered by curious minds poking around in your direction.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The importance of your position makes you the object of a sort of attention that you shouldn't take personally. Recognize that it's the nature of the position and not your own nature that engenders certain scenarios.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). There is no objective way to prove the value of today's interaction. It's all what you make of it. Even if it doesn't lead to the outcome you were going for, you could be better off for the miss.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). People who are contributing to something often show up differently than people who are asking for something. That's a gap that the smoothest operators close. Show up the same either way.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You have been known to take part in such antics as presenting a cheerful mood for no reason and supporting small achievements with high enthusiasm. Today will be a case in point.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Squabbling children cry "no fair," believing in a just world. Adults cry "no fair," knowing that justice is human construct that has to be conceived, fought for and enforced. Justice is rare but worth the fight.
TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 20). Over the next 10 weeks, you bring greater imagination to your problems and solve them quickly and with pleasure. June's personal breakthrough leads to new sources of income and a change in your financial style. This affects key relationships. The beauty and new perspective you seek will be found in a far off Shangri-La. Libra and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 19, 38, 6 and 50.
TAKING ON A SPIRITUAL MAXIM: (Part Three) For the beginning of this thread, see the archives for the Feb. 18-19 columns.
"What others think of me is none of my business."
To ignore "what others think of me" is ignore a good portion of my reality. To say it's "none of my business" is to claim the antithesis of what business literally is, which is to say bringing a product to market to trade. Of course, what others think of what you present is your business. No one is going to buy a thing of which they don't approve. The opinions of others are absolutely critical to business, furthermore, the business of life is not so different from the business of business. We are always bringing our efforts and creations to "market" and trading them for approval, love, sustenance and every other thing we need to live as interdependent beings.
"What others think of me is none of my business" typically arises when one has been hurt by the disapproval of others. To then say, essentially, that other people's opinions shouldn't hurt or matter is to deny the very real pain of rejection. It's a phrase that to me was unhelpful simply because it didn't work as intended.
Instead of denying the pain of rejection and hoping for it to fade inside the idea that I shouldn't be having it in the first place, I sought further understanding. It helped me to break the phrase down into parts, beginning with "what other people think of me." Continued in tomorrow's column.
CELEBRITY PROFILES: Supernova Rihanna mixed musical styles to produce one that sings to the tune of 230 million records sold ranking her among the best-selling artists of all time. This soulful Pisces songstress was born under a fiery, headstrong, passionate Aries moon. Natal Mars in Sagittarius, the sign the world, new worlds, all worlds and worldliness in general is an omen for universal appeal.
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