Bonding, cultivating relationships, connecting with others — it's where many people find happiness. Not everyone. And not all the time. If you're pulled to solitude as Mars and Saturn move into a squared position, that doesn't make you antisocial. There's just something you need that can't be found in the outside world, only the inner one.

ARIES (March 21-April 19). The current speed of time is one second per second. Try to stay inside of that, as one might stay inside a car on the freeway; speeding through and yet simultaneously rather still.

TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Amp up the importance of your goal. If it's important enough, you'll relate all decisions to the ultimate vision of that goal. With everything you do, you'll ask: Does it get me closer?

GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You'll spend part of the day figuring out what is best for the health and development of another person. It's not so easy to forget all about you and really feel life as the other person might. This is love.

CANCER (June 22-July 22). You take a personal approach, perform with fluidity and leave your audience (whether it be one or 100) thinking: "Who was that, and how can I get more?"

LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Cognitive dissonance isn't something people experience in times of crisis. To some degree it's the constant. Our brains are wired to continuously deal with internal disagreement. Humor helps. Parts of today will be absolutely hilarious.

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You can't help whom you prefer, though of course it's only natural to want to spend more time with the one who inspires a warm and reflective feeling in you and less time with the one who makes you work in some way or another.

LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). When you know you don't have much time for a task, you tend to give it your deep, full attention. This is why it will help you to set a strict time limit on things that don't naturally have one.

SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). There's a reason why videos of funny dogs and cute kittens are the online refuge of children from ages 1-101. We could all use a little levity and softness in our experience. None will be immune to this need today.

SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Change always comes at a cost. Lose this, gain that — this is the balance of life. The best is when you wind up trading something you can no longer use for something you can (like what happens today)!

CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The old way is safe, comfortable and familiar. It's also boring you to tears. You'll come up with a new way. Give yourself the best chance at being accepted by privately working out the bugs before presenting.

AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The best perk about seeing new places in the world is that it enables you to finally see your homeland for what it is. Contrast is necessary for perception. It takes two eyes to see depth.

PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Making things too easy for the other person is actually not very nice. This why "no spoilers" is a good policy, and it's also why you should never give an unwrapped gift. The prize is in the discovery.

TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 18). You take an active role in your environment. Your every interaction is a kind of creation. People insist you join them, stating, "It won't be the same without you," and they're right. You'll work in different groups and take home two victory "trophies" by April. Heartfelt promises will be exchanged in May. Leo and Pisces adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 1, 42, 9 and 38.

ASTROLOGICAL QUESTION: "After going through more than my share of divorces, I want someone I'll be with for the rest of my life. What should I do differently to make this happen? I was born July 10, 1957."

First of all, don't panic and marry the next person who comes along. You have plenty of time. The key to attracting someone who can hang for the long-term is developing a strong sense of yourself during this down time. Following your own interests and learning to love yourself more deeply will inspire the right person to love and honor you deeply, too. Neptune in your home and family sector shows a tendency to idealize marriage and family; it will be important that your mate feel the same devotion to the family ideal that you do. Ask lots of questions and pay close attention to signals men give on the topic of family during your courtship. With Saturn in Sagittarius in your romance sector, you may have been attracted to free-wheeling, commitment-resistant types in the past; now you know what to watch out for and the qualities needed to break the spell.

CELEBRITY PROFILES: Academy Award-winner Kevin Costner is a charming actor and a visionary director. This Capricorn is as multitalented as his natal chart is diverse. An intense Scorpio moon signifies charismatic appeal and Mercury in Aquarius promises that Costner will keep using his celebrity status to do good in the world. Venus in Sagittarius indicates a love for exotic adventures.

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