Recently I heard from a woman who was extremely negative. Her very long letter revealed her life philosophy: "If I don't expect anything good to happen, I won't be disappointed when it doesn't!"
She told me of all the devastating things that had happened to her over the years. She was afraid to believe anything good might happen. Because her thoughts were all negative, so was her life.
Maybe you're like that woman; you're avoiding hope to protect yourself from being hurt. Let me tell you something: Your negative attitude is setting you up for negative behaviors, and that's setting you up for a negative lifestyle. Everything becomes negative because your thoughts are negative.
I want you to think about the tremendous power your thoughts have over your life. You have 100 percent control over your thoughts. You can focus on what's wrong, or you can be thankful for what's right. Your actions are a direct result of your thoughts.
If you're thinking negatively, you're going to act that way and make negative decisions. The converse is true, as well. Force yourself to think positive thoughts, refuse to look on the dark side of any issue or action, search for what's right about your life right now and focus on it. You'll be surprised how quickly your behavior begins to change.
It's called renewing your mind. If you are habitually negative, this is going to be quite a challenge. But you can do it, I know you can. Want to practice? Send me an e-mail at email@example.com. Tell me 10 good things about your life today, right now.
Can't think of even one thing? Well, you did wake up this morning. You are breathing. Your mind is clear enough to find the computer keyboard or a piece of paper. You do have some method by which to press those keys or manipulate a writing instrument. You have sufficient eyesight to read this column. Your mind is processing at a level necessary to understand the written word. You do have the proper muscles in your face to turn your mouth into a smile.
Try it right now, even if you are convinced you have absolutely nothing to smile about. Have you reached 10 yet? OK, so cheat. Start by using my list above. Write the reasons I've just given you, making each one personal to you. Then end each with an exclamation point.
It'll change your day.
Mary Hunt is the founder of www.debtproofliving.com and author of 17 books, including "Debt-Proof Living." You can e-mail her at firstname.lastname@example.org or write to Everyday Cheapskate, P.O. Box 2135, Paramount, CA 90723. To find out more about Mary Hunt and read her past columns, please visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.