Lenore Skenazy from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Sat, 04 Apr 2020 04:57:12 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Lenore Skenazy from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/lenore-skenazy-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy 772ea50a29356c19d4aeec6526683f4f Post-Traumatic Surprise for 04/02/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/04/20/post-traumatic-surprise Thu, 02 Apr 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>So, here's something you might not have heard of: post-traumatic growth. I promise I am not making this up just to cheer anybody up. But I hope it does cheer you up, because it's real.</p> <p>"We are far more resilient than we give each other credit for," says Dr. Samantha Boardman, founder of the website Positive Prescription and assistant attending psychiatrist at Weill Cornell Medical Center in New York City. And the research proves it. </p> <p>Beginning in the '90s, some psychologists finally started turning their focus away from dysfunction to study its good-twin opposite: how people cope. By some estimates, at least half the population has gone through some kind of real trauma. (And let's assume by September or so, that could be a lot more of us.) And yet, writes John Tierney, co-author of the new book, "The Power of Bad: How the Negativity Effect Rules Us and How We Can Rule It," 4 out of 5 trauma victims did not suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder. "And in the long run, they typically emerged stronger. Instead of being permanently scarred, they underwent post-traumatic growth." <p>Updated: Thu Apr 02, 2020</p> 61d7c56884372476b23c41b77af7ec15 'Freaky Friday': Coronavirus Edition for 03/26/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/03/20/freaky-friday-coronavirus-edition Thu, 26 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p>Everyone's noticing that the roles are reversed at the moment: Those over 50 or so are being hectored by their protective progeny to stop going out to have lunch with friends or play cards or stroll the neighborhood. "Wash all the clothes you went out in today &#8212; including Daddy's jeans ... Bring Clorox wipes ... Use baggies for gloves ... "</p> <p>And, frankly, I'm fine with that. <span class="column--highlighted-text">Hectoring is where it's at these days. Hector on! But it does feel just the tiniest bit like Freaky Free-Range Friday.</span><p>Updated: Thu Mar 26, 2020</p> 78d9e7d7c73ac19ca8da9805762e5bb0 Video Games are Distance Learning, Too for 03/19/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/03/20/video-games-are-distance-learning-too Thu, 19 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>Seven days in a row, 19 hours a day &#8212; not counting time for meals, Snapchat and that online math assignment.</p> <p>That could be how long your kids have been playing Fortnite since the quarantine began &#8212; and that is perfectly fine. In fact, maybe it's time for you to join them. </p> <p>Seriously, there are a couple of bigger things to worry about now, aren't there, than whether video games are the optimal form of child enrichment. The good news &#8212; no, not the totally good news we're all waiting for from science &#8212; is not only that they don't make kids violent and dumb but also that they are a force for social, educational and emotional good &#8212; even when the kids are blowing things, and each other, up. <p>Updated: Thu Mar 19, 2020</p> 87bb184942c39bdb185a4c6b51e7a739 A Coronavirus Conversation with the Kids for 03/12/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/03/20/a-coronavirus-conversation-with-the-kids Thu, 12 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p>How should you talk to your kids about the coronavirus?</p> <p>Ironically, CNN actually recommends to "resist the urge to bombard them with every possible headline or piece of information about the outbreak." Twenty-four-hour news channel: Heal thyself!</p> <p>But you can't expect a media outlet not to offer tips at a time like this. It has become part of the modern crisis package: Assume parents are desperately in need of someone they don't know telling them how to talk to their own kids.<p>Updated: Thu Mar 12, 2020</p> aa8574e5ac43e81385eba98202ce7c5a A Wabi-Sabi Birthday for 03/05/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/03/20/a-wabi-sabi-birthday Thu, 05 Mar 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p>The online parenting world can be a strange place filled with strange concerns, but surely this is one of the strangest: A mom wrote to a mommy blog that she would like to literally change the date of her son's birthday &#8212; or at least lie to him about the date he was born &#8212; so they wouldn't have to celebrate on the day after Christmas, which is a holiday in England called Boxing Day.</p> <p>Yeah. That's her real worry. (And yeah, that's a real holiday. Apparently, it's not the day that all the relatives who have been holding themselves together for the sake of Christmas finally start slugging one another. It has to do with giving the servants a box after Christmas, containing some money and maybe some leftover food. Woo hoo! Old gravy! I'd be ready to box someone, too.) </p> <p>As for the mom and her inconveniently born kid: The big problem seems to be that this is a bummer of a day. There's no way to have a party &#8212; other kids are off with their families &#8212; and the boy is basically stuck inside with her and her in-laws (which, if you read between the lines, sounds like it might be a rather large chunk of the issue). So, the boy stays home, cooped up with the extended family. Presumably, he gorged on presents the day before; he has probably eaten some fruitcake (this never bodes well); and along comes the terrible, awful, no-good, very bad birthday. <p>Updated: Thu Mar 05, 2020</p> e5c7c622ded6f20658286734fe43c663 A Modern Dinner Party for 02/27/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/02/20/a-modern-dinner-party Thu, 27 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p>Are you free for supper</p> <p>Next Sunday night at 9?</p> <p>We're having some folks over<p>Updated: Thu Feb 27, 2020</p> 568a57173ca869230d134ef0219b4983 America's Favorite Story for 02/20/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/02/20/americas-favorite-story Thu, 20 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p>A Springfield, Ohio, man spotted a van &#8212; guess what color &#8212; that he thought was trying to kidnap a girl, and he ran off to chase it in the most modern of ways: livestreaming the whole thing on Facebook. The van got away, but the man posted the video, which went locally viral.</p> <p>Here we must commend Springfield's WHIO TV 7 for checking to see if, indeed, there had been any substantiated reports of actual or near-kidnappings. Police lieutenant Lou Turner told reporter Katy Andersen that the cops had received not a single complaint. Let's hear it for a reality check!</p> <p>The two-minute story is a great piece of paranoia-puncturing &#8212; until the very end, when Anderson says, "Anyone who sees something suspicious or is a victim to a crime like this is urged to call police immediately to report it."<p>Updated: Thu Feb 20, 2020</p> df59c74a8e7d6ff1585a228a5cbc64de Making It Legal to Let Kids Play Outside for 02/14/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/02/20/making-it-legal-to-let-kids-play-outside Fri, 14 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p>America may be divided along partisan lines when it comes to everything from walls to wars, but in Colorado, two state representatives &#8212; one Democrat, one Republican &#8212; are co-sponsoring their first bill together. It guarantees that kids can enjoy some independence &#8212; walk to school, play outside, etc. &#8212; without it being mistaken for neglect.</p> <p>The bill was inspired by Utah's "free-range parenting" law, passed in 2018, and should come to the floor of the House in a week or two. What a relief it would represent for Colorado parents &#8212; and what joy for kids!</p> <p>Reps. Janet Buckner, D-Colo., and Kim Ransom, R-Colo., have been friends for years. They always wanted to work on some piece of legislation together, but nothing fit the bill &#8212; as it were &#8212; till this "reasonable childhood independence" act. As they wrote in the Colorado Sun, they were motivated in part by "outrage at some of the stories we've heard from friends and constituents, moms and dads who simply took their eyes off their kids for a few minutes and ended up investigated for neglect. And frankly, we both remember some of the hoops we've jumped through as moms ourselves just to make sure no one mistook us for bad parents."<p>Updated: Fri Feb 14, 2020</p> 384e45ed8da8e619009bba0a3272fb03 From Distrust to Dystopia for 02/06/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/02/20/from-distrust-to-dystopia Thu, 06 Feb 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p>"Do we really need this?"</p> <p>That's what a mom from Idaho wrote to me, forwarding a note from her local school district about a new security system it's installing: Raptor Technologies' visitor management system.</p> <p>The note featured a video of how the system (basically a government ID scanner) works. It shows a mom arriving at her kid's school. She enters with a big grin and goes to the office where she exclaims, "Hi, Maureen!" and receives an equally enthusiastic, "Hi, Cindy!"<p>Updated: Thu Feb 06, 2020</p> c646c356f75316d602be63c024c95849 A Bruise Is Not Always Abuse for 01/30/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/01/20/a-bruise-is-not-always-abuse Thu, 30 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>"Taking her to our own hospital was the single most harmful decision that we made for our baby." </p> <p>So said a dad who worried he'd accidentally injured his newly adopted infant by rolling into her when they both dozed off. He took her to the hospital just to make sure she was fine. Turns out she had suffered a minor fracture that is common in babies and heals on its own. That was in May. Two weeks later, child protective services declared him a child abuser and took the baby from him and his wife.<p>Updated: Thu Jan 30, 2020</p> 6aa28217e7ab71cf553e038cc04f6a18 How Grit and Grace Get Revealed for 01/24/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/01/20/how-grit-and-grace-get-revealed Fri, 24 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>What does it take to become extraordinary?</p> <p>Extraordinary circumstances? Gifts? Character?<p>Updated: Fri Jan 24, 2020</p> 3aeb4fd2dc98e8c843ed27cd161ca7c8 Parents as Prison Guards for 01/09/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/01/20/parents-as-prison-guards Thu, 09 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>When people ask me what has been the biggest change in parenting in the last generation or two, I could say: </p> <p>Smartphones.<p>Updated: Thu Jan 09, 2020</p> 9e8ecca5126664dc67720614872742dc Kindergarten Isn't Fun Anymore -- and That's a Problem for 01/02/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/01/20/kindergarten-isnt-fun-anymore-and-thats-a-problem Thu, 02 Jan 2020 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Increased academic pressure and testing in kindergarten is bringing everyone to tears &#8212; including the teachers.</p> <p>When evolutionary psychologist Peter Gray wrote a piece for his Psychology Today blog about kindergarten teachers in Brookline, Massachusetts, protesting dwindling recess time and mandated 90-minute reading and writing blocks, he received a virtual cubby full of comments from kindergarten teachers across the country at just about the end of their jump ropes.<p>Updated: Thu Jan 02, 2020</p> c6aaa7e782b8352d5c2cfb44919dace8 The Top 10 Worst (and Best) Parenting Moments of 2019 for 12/26/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/12/19/the-top-10-worst-and-best-parenting-moments-of-2019 Thu, 26 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>It wasn't <i>all</i> bad ... But a lot of it was, so let's start with that:</p> <p>HOPPIN' DOWN THE PAPER TRAIL <p>Updated: Thu Dec 26, 2019</p> 5bb111fc1aa058e1283875b86b1a571c Ho-Ho-Hoaxes for 12/19/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/12/19/ho-ho-hoaxes Thu, 19 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>A 16-year-old girl abducted by four men in a car as she walked down a Bronx street with her mom on Monday night &#8212; an incident captured on a video grainier than the moon landing &#8212; has admitted this was a hoax.</p> <p>Karol Sanchez's family is from Honduras, and The New York Times reports that they were thinking of moving back there &#8212; something Karol Sanchez did not want to do. The Times also said that the girl mentioned something to the cops about her mom being "overprotective."<p>Updated: Thu Dec 19, 2019</p> 0fbb16e61bebf0a0f642d650a00ee4ef Will Santa Bring Lawn Darts? for 12/12/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/12/19/will-santa-bring-lawn-darts Thu, 12 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>What's that bare spot under the Christmas tree? It's a silent salute to the toys we've lost to regulations and lawsuits over the years &#8212; toys that delighted many and, alas, maimed a few.</p> <p>Toys like the bizarre Cabbage Patch Snacktime Kid that, one wag noted, always seemed to be high. That's because the '90s doll was built to munch whatever you could fit into its soft rubber mouth, which served as a portal to some kind of internal turbine that &#8212; significantly &#8212; did not come with an off switch. While you could deliberately feed it everything from a plastic french fry to a stick of chalk, it would also eat anything that got caught in its maw &#8212; including hair still on little girls' heads.</p> <p>And so, reported The Independent on Dec. 30, 1996, "three-year-old Carly Mize was left partly bald on Thursday ... " That was the end of that particular item from Mattel Inc.<p>Updated: Thu Dec 12, 2019</p> 30854b4123032482f4194f8a45699b2f White-Hot White Van Hysteria for 12/05/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/12/19/white-hot-white-van-hysteria Thu, 05 Dec 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>White van hysteria has hit a new high with the mayor of Baltimore warning his citizens to not even <i>park</i> near a white van. People in at least one of these vehicles, he said, are coming to sex-traffic young women and sell their body parts.</p> <p>Neither of these things is true, and when you examine them for half of a second, you can see they are pretty mutually exclusive. It's just a hairball of hysteria, mish-mashing all our fears into one back seat. This includes murder, trafficking, organ sales, vans, strangers and, of course, men.</p> <p>The mayor fell for the story the same way waves of Americans seem to be doing. When asked the source of his information by the skeptical WBAL reporter Vanessa Herring, he said, "It's all over Facebook."<p>Updated: Thu Dec 05, 2019</p> 33cab1a771d38a0fc37400843a3b732f When Tragedy Strikes, Blame the Mom for 11/28/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/11/19/when-tragedy-strikes-blame-the-mom Thu, 28 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>What a horrible, horrible tragedy &#8212; times two.</p> <p>Jiterria Lightner and her three kids, ages 4, 3 and 2, were at the Charlotte Douglas International Airport on their way home from a trip to Florida on Sept. 25. While Jiterria sat less than 15 feet away, trying to arrange a ride home, her kids were in a little space between the escalator and the stairs. <p>Updated: Thu Nov 28, 2019</p> 5f0026c8606bc617067bfa3549521d48 Don't Trust Anyone Under (or Over) 30 for 11/21/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/11/19/dont-trust-anyone-under-or-over-30 Thu, 21 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p>Maybe it was always thus: The older you get, the more trust you develop.</p> <p>That's the most positive spin we can put on a new Pew Research Center study that shows young people are massively more cynical and distrusting than their elders are. For instance, nearly 3 out of 4 Americans under age 30 believe people "just look out for themselves" most of the time. And 6 in 10 say most people "can't be trusted." <p>Updated: Thu Nov 21, 2019</p> abd220b26db09965d906f41ee52ebdc9 Chew-broccla for 11/14/2019 https://www.creators.com/read/lenore-skenazy/11/19/chew-broccla-9d98e Thu, 14 Nov 2019 00:00:00 -0800 <p>"Hold on a second," my aunt said to my cousin, who was mid-story. She turned to stare at me. Silence fell over our dinner table. Then my aunt started to giggle.</p> <p>"You have to be the loudest chewer in the entire world."</p> <p>I was about 7 years old. And when I look back, this is the first memory I have of feeling truly mortified by someone's observation of me.<p>Updated: Thu Nov 14, 2019</p>