The Science Advice Goddess from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Tue, 18 Dec 2018 14:41:58 -0800 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss The Science Advice Goddess from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/the-advice-goddess-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon 51e70bfeed684b9be84b27397589e074 The Hand That Rocks The Ladle for 12/18/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/12/18/the-hand-that-rocks-the-ladle Tue, 18 Dec 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p><i> I'm a 57-year-old twice-divorced man. Though I never wanted to get to a point where romance wouldn't be in my big picture, I'm feeling done with it. I've replaced dating and getting married again with gourmet cooking for one. I'm really enjoying it, but it worries me. Is it okay to be done? &#8212; Single And Culinary </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Dec 18, 2018</p> e3f125aff37dd6322fcfe1e0ae939aaf For Whom The Sleigh Bells Toll for 12/11/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/12/18/for-whom-the-sleigh-bells-toll Tue, 11 Dec 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p><i> I get very lonely around the holidays. My family is just my parents, and they're far away. I don't have a boyfriend right now. I have many friends and good people in my life, but instead of hanging out with them, I find myself isolating. So...it seems my treatment for loneliness is loneliness and then feeling sorry for myself that I'm home alone. Help! &#8212; Pity Party Animal </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Dec 11, 2018</p> 755692e72d0c0dfef0e677a188b10de5 Teetotally Awesome for 12/04/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/12/18/teetotally-awesome Tue, 04 Dec 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p></p><p><i> I'm a recovering addict, five years sober. My ex-boyfriend was a "normie" (12-step slang for someone who hasn't had addiction issues), and there were definitely things he just didn't get. Do I need to date another recovering addict to feel understood? I've done that before, and I really don't like it. It's like living in a recovery bubble 24/7. &#8212; Sober </i><p>Updated: Tue Dec 04, 2018</p> a56d1d2af86f17dc27f27b7beaf3609f Woe Is Meow for 11/27/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/11/18/woe-is-meow Tue, 27 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p><i> I lost over 100 pounds. I'm really proud of my myself and my new body, so I post pix on Instagram. Disturbingly, I've got a few haters &#8212; all women! &#8212; who come at me saying I'm narcissistic, slutty, a showoff, etc. I thought women are supposed to support one another. How should I respond? Should I post fewer selfies? &#8212; So Much For Sisterhood </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Nov 27, 2018</p> 9a1fc0506607f89aee2b10108315b41f Best Man For The Sob for 11/20/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/11/18/best-man-for-the-sob Tue, 20 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p><i> I'm a 28-year-old guy with an amazing girlfriend. She gets upset and sometimes cries, and I never know how to soothe her. I'm afraid to say the wrong thing, so I don't say anything at all. Of course, she then gets more upset, thinking I don't care. But I do care, and I want her to know. &#8212; Tongue-Tied </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Nov 20, 2018</p> 89db46848a46f24ad9258a9992b3b64a Apartnering Up for 11/13/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/11/18/apartnering-up Tue, 13 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p><i> My husband and I started having problems when I found an email he sent to his ex-girlfriend saying, "You're the most beautiful woman I've ever met. I want to spend the rest of my life with you." He's never complimented me during our five years together. He revealed that he and his ex used to have sex for hours, while the most we ever spent making love was 45 minutes &#8212; only once, when we were first dating. I think I should leave, but we have a 1-year-old child. We are good together caring for the baby, but it's terrible to be with a man who lacks love, respect, and desire for you. &#8212; Tormented </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Nov 13, 2018</p> 53e08c40576b779f691d3aebcaf9e42b Business Meating for 11/06/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/11/18/business-meating Tue, 06 Nov 2018 00:00:00 -0800 <p></p><p><i> A man asked me for my number at an event, saying he wanted to take me to dinner. I told him I'd just ended a relationship and wasn't ready to date. Of course, he then said it'd be a business dinner, and I consented and wrote my number down. I feel that I had bad boundaries and wish a) he hadn't been so forward and b) I hadn't given my number. How could I handle this better in the future? I'm a pretty assertive woman, so my collapsing under pressure was disturbing. &#8212; Jell-O </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Nov 06, 2018</p> 415ee2643bb6ab3200e2da5c80866445 Here We Glow Again for 10/30/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/10/18/here-we-glow-again Tue, 30 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> My friends tease me, saying that I'm such an obnoxious jerk, but amazingly, everybody seems to love me. Somebody said it's because I have charisma &#8212; like a rock star/movie star quality. Honestly, I don't think that highly of myself. I'm interesting-looking, outgoing, funny, and relatively talented in what I do. What is charisma exactly, and can people create it? &#8212; Weirdly Beloved Woman </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Oct 30, 2018</p> 32d27eeb6be6b4417bf74aab9a89649b Jenny From The Flock for 10/23/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/10/18/jenny-from-the-flock Tue, 23 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I hit it off with this guy I met on Match.com. We've been dating for a month and slept together twice. He said he'd delete his Match profile because things were going so well, so I deleted mine. Recently, a mutual friend told me he'd just gone on Tinder. I'm super upset, and though we didn't have the exclusivity talk, it seemed implied. &#8212; Dumbfounded </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Oct 23, 2018</p> a2c2d6e637fb18ac185c25e3eb48481f Hi, Anxiety! for 10/16/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/10/18/hi-anxiety Tue, 16 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I'm a 29-year-old woman. My boyfriend of a year is a wonderful guy. I've always been a jealous person &#8212; very insecure about whether a guy really cares and is being faithful. I ruined my last relationship (with a nice, decent guy) by snooping in his email &#8212; finding nothing. I've started seeing a therapist, who tells me I am "anxiously attached." She's helping me work on this. My boyfriend suggested I also write you to see whether he could do anything to help. &#8212; Panicky </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Oct 16, 2018</p> b3ab9e36a06835272c4b4701fdf8c48b Fly In My Soup Kitchen for 10/09/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/10/18/fly-in-my-soup-kitchen Tue, 09 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I'm a 30-something woman questioning the long-term viability of my relationship. I work for a nonprofit in a community with a high level of volunteerism. My boyfriend is a therapist, so I think he wants to help others. He's kind and thoughtful toward me and his friends. However, he does no volunteer work or charitable giving. He'll sometimes offer a lower rate for people who can't afford therapy, but he'll qualify it by saying he needs to get people talking about him to generate more business. I'm put off that his ego and career advancement are motivating the only signs of charity I see from him. &#8212; Disturbed Altruist </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Oct 09, 2018</p> baf68923ec52ab31c3078755242219a3 Pouter Keg for 10/02/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/10/18/pouter-keg Tue, 02 Oct 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> My girlfriend, who'd been traveling, lost track of what day it was and was surprised when I showed up on the usual night I come cook her dinner. She was happy to see me but said she needed to finish this one "urgent work email." How nice. Dinner would get cold while she took forever. Instead of getting started in the kitchen, I sat down angrily on the couch. "What's wrong?" she asked. I said, "I'll just sit here till you're ready!" She got angry, saying that I should have just asked her how long she'd be or told her I felt bad. She then went on about how I have a "toxic" habit of this sort of "passive-aggressive" behavior, and I need to stop "acting out" before it ruins our relationship. I love her and don't want to lose her. Help! &#8212; Doghouse </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Oct 02, 2018</p> db5f70924f90ea88aac5805aa0552a73 Codger And Me for 09/25/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/18/codger-and-me Tue, 25 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I'm a 22-year-old guy, but I look 14. Boomer co-workers often use me as an example of a bad millennial, attacking me for Dread Smartphone Overuse (conveniently forgetting that our work requires phone use for comms). Older co-workers often launch into unsolicited 40-minute lectures on the "college path" I should take. (Already graduated, thanks!) How can I gracefully deal with this demeaning treatment? &#8212; Irritated </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Sep 25, 2018</p> 29079a9555af39797529db5c838fc28d Swarm Feelings for 09/18/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/18/swarm-feelings Tue, 18 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I've been flirting with two guys all year. I feel a connection and chemistry with both, but neither's asked me out yet. This weekend, I'm attending a going-away party of a grad student we all know, and I'm nervous that they'll both show up and ask me out. (There's also a third guy who seems interested.) What should I do? I wouldn't want to be one of somebody's many options. &#8212; Feeling Unfair </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Sep 18, 2018</p> efef108d6055e580a6279ee4d483e6eb Mock Love To Me for 09/11/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/18/mock-love-to-me Tue, 11 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> My boyfriend has this irritating habit of making fun of my outfits or my spray tan. When I get upset, he says I'm being "sensitive." I try to look cute for him, and I just don't think it's funny for your boyfriend to mock your appearance. Is this his issue or mine? If it's his, how do I get him to stop? &#8212; Unhappy </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Sep 11, 2018</p> 6a6d80907b2e6e91084b986dfe35741a Having It Small for 09/04/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/18/having-it-small Tue, 04 Sep 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I met somebody online, and we have a real connection, but he is agoraphobic and hasn't really left his bedroom for 10 years. I have a job and a life, so it's hard to keep up with his barrage of messages. However, it seems unfair to bail on dating him just because he has this condition. What causes agoraphobia? Is it treatable? &#8212; Wondering </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Sep 04, 2018</p> b816ae38a8b59d6a2f5f2a84c9473b7e Too Mush Information for 08/28/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/18/too-mush-information Tue, 28 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> My friend was dying to tell her new boyfriend she loves him but waited till he said it first. She, in fact, makes that a rule. Now I have a new boyfriend. Should I just shamelessly own my feelings &#8212; that is, tell him I love him? Or should I follow my friend's lead? &#8212; Hating Waiting </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 28, 2018</p> 29ca9fbdcd126fac1df8d08f65e4bc5e Smells Like Quarantine Spirit for 08/21/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/18/smells-like-quarantine-spirit Tue, 21 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I'm a 41-year-old married lesbian. My wife and I used to work from home together. She recently got an important job, and she's now gone all day, five days a week. I'm happy for her, and this is good for us in the long run, but I'm really sad and lonely. &#8212; Isolated </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 21, 2018</p> 854a9ec5acfbd2b66eec324fdece8d5d Power Tulle for 08/14/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/18/power-tulle Tue, 14 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> Why are there lots of bridal magazines but no magazines for grooms? What does that imply? &#8212; A Male </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 14, 2018</p> 7ed319fad68660af822d5104c05f729c Seize The Meh for 08/07/2018 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/18/seize-the-meh Tue, 07 Aug 2018 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i> I'm a 31-year-old guy who got really hurt after a relationship ended a few years back. Now I just don't date women whom I'll ever really care about, because I don't ever want to feel how I felt when my previous relationship ended. My friends say I'm being a coward and missing out, but hey, I'm not depressed over any chicks. I think I'm being smart in protecting myself. Maybe more people should take this approach. &#8212; Comfortably Numb </i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 07, 2018</p>