The Science Advice Goddess from Creators Syndicate https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon Creators Syndicate is an international syndication company that represents cartoonists and columnists of the highest caliber. en Sat, 19 Sep 2020 20:40:28 -0700 https://www.creators.com/ http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss The Science Advice Goddess from Creators Syndicate https://cdn.creators.com/features/the-advice-goddess-thumb.jpg https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon 33f25d425aa204c20d860221bcc057dd Kick The Hobbit for 09/15/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/20/kick-the-hobbit Tue, 15 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i>My 23-year-old nephew is a nice guy, a college grad with a good job who's a loving pet owner. The women in the family love his ironic mustache, his tattoos, and his way of making people laugh, but the men, including my husband, tend to see him in a negative light. I struggle to understand why they think so little of him. But maybe that's it: My nephew's not a big guy. He's maybe 5-foot-6, and while that's not terribly short, my family skews tall, with all the other men 6-foot-3 and over. From reading evolutionary theory in your books and columns, I'm wondering, might these men subconsciously dislike him because he's small? If so, is there any way to get them to see him in a better light?</i></p><i> </i><p><i>&#8212;Concerned Aunt</i><p>Updated: Tue Sep 15, 2020</p> ecebb82657a4cacb4e5a66a6b5cf094b Real Houseknives for 09/08/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/20/real-houseknives Tue, 08 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I was dismayed at how off-base you were when I read your response to a woman wanting to give her female friend advice to stop her from dating and hooking up so much after her breakup. It's common knowledge that it's men who go off on women for being promiscuous and tell them to not dress sexy. It's one more form of patriarchal control. Why blame women for this?</p> <p>&#8212;Angry Woman Living In The Real World</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Sep 08, 2020</p> 761a42e95cf4d58b0d22896920ea3e78 Womb With A View for 09/01/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/09/20/womb-with-a-view Tue, 01 Sep 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>My friend constantly talks to me about her baby on the way and asks me to help her pick out furniture and clothes for it. This is very painful for me because my husband doesn't want kids and I agreed not to have any. I didn't realize I'd have this deep longing for a child, but I love him and am not willing to leave him. I also have a hard time asking for things, even if a person is my friend. How do I tell her it would be better for me not to talk about this so much without making her feel bad? </p> <p>&#8212;Never-Be Mom</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Sep 01, 2020</p> 67ac4a4d63825d4d00ab19a5a95bf63c Catty Litter for 08/25/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/20/catty-litter Tue, 25 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I'm a woman who just turned 30, and so is my best friend, who just got out of a three-year relationship. She's now on the rebound <i>hard</i> &#8212; hitting on her co-workers, going on multiple dates every week, hooking up with different guys all the time, etc. I can't decide whether to admire her confidence or be concerned that she needs constant attention and validation from men. Do you think this is healthy behavior? Should I tell her that she needs to stop acting out and work on healing from her relationship in healthy ways? </p> <p>&#8212;Worried Friend</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 25, 2020</p> 7dc6889a0f0c7e4ab2f1a617c5c2886f The Devil Eats Purina for 08/18/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/20/the-devil-eats-purina Tue, 18 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>My girlfriend got a dog six weeks ago &#8212; a Chihuahua. I don't hate the dog, but I'm not wild about him. I've almost stepped on him twice in the kitchen, and my snuggle time on the couch with my girlfriend has now become me watching him sit in her lap while they cootchie-coo it out. She hasn't had the dog sleep in bed with us, but I know that's next. Is this the end of our relationship?</p> <p>&#8212;Annoyed</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 18, 2020</p> f93ad0ec204c0b2003111e8f0ba4d0ee MC Yammer for 08/11/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/20/mc-yammer Tue, 11 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>)My friend won't stop talking about her new crush, and it's driving me up the wall. I was annoyed, but now I'm getting increasingly angry, and I don't appreciate this toxic feeling rising up. It's all her and her new love all the time. If she asks anything about me or how I'm doing, it's an afterthought. I try to avoid conflict, so I haven't said anything. I keep hoping she'll realize she's behaving really selfishly. What will it take to get her to recognize this and start being a better friend?</p> <p>&#8212;Upset</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 11, 2020</p> f4e2361e721af0bb1ba22ffec9d0756d Dr. Jekyll And Mr. Hide for 08/04/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/08/20/dr-jekyll-and-mr-hide Tue, 04 Aug 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I'm a 30-year-old gay man with a new boyfriend. He is a total social butterfly: the kind of person who shows up to a bar on a random Friday night and just happens to know 10 people there. I, on the other hand, don't love being super social. It's not that I'm shy. I just find socializing exhausting. I really like him, and we mostly hang out one-on-one. However, the times we are with a lot of other people, even when they're a bunch of his friends, I feel a little overwhelmed. I'm worried he'll find me boring because of this, and I'd rather know sooner than later if my being a wallflower will be the death of the relationship.</p> <p>&#8212;Introvert</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Aug 04, 2020</p> 698c295898282babd116941c84c0ef1f Blurt Force Trauma for 07/28/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/07/20/blurt-force-trauma Tue, 28 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I became friends with this awesome guy who moved into my apartment complex. I can tell that he's into me, but he's not my type at all. What should I say to tell him I'm not interested?</p> <p>&#8212; Uncomfortable</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Jul 28, 2020</p> 91bbc98bc93256b5c5d59fe25c8d6f4b Sittin' On The Dock Of The Bae for 07/21/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/07/20/sittin-on-the-dock-of-the-bae Tue, 21 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I'm a 34-year-old woman, and I've been with my boyfriend for about eighteen months. He's a loving guy but comes up a little short on romance ("butterfly moments," I guess you'd call them, from being surprised with some big romantic gesture). While I want those, I wonder whether that's just because society/media/culture have led me to believe they're the norm? How can I get these "butterfly moments" without asking unreasonable things of him?</p> <p>&#8212;In Need</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Jul 21, 2020</p> 8f6c8346089edff5e4a6492e123a082a Wail Watching for 07/14/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/07/20/wail-watching Tue, 14 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>My roommate just found out her ex-fiance is terminally ill and is likely to pass away soon. Though they had a weird relationship, I can tell she's taking it pretty hard. I really want to be supportive, but I honestly don't know what to do or say around a grieving person. I'm worried about saying the wrong thing, especially because I'm really uncomfortable with grief. I told her I am here for her if she needs anything. What do you do and say for a person who's in such a terrible situation? </p> <p>&#8212;Clueless</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Jul 14, 2020</p> 0c55572e1e873e0d5a6229d02769707e Doom Raider for 07/07/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/07/20/doom-raider Tue, 07 Jul 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i>)I think the guy I recently started dating might run in the same circles as my ex. (He's said a few things that led me to think that.) This terrifies me because I really do not like my ex and don't want there to be any overlap in our lives. I keep having nightmare scenarios play out in my head where I show up to the bar after my new guy's poker game and my ex is there. What can I do if this happens?</i></p><i> </i><p><i>&#8212;Distressed</i><p>Updated: Tue Jul 07, 2020</p> 6c0763173ffef9fec86e1ebaa9734c78 Flesh And Bleh for 06/30/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/06/20/flesh-and-bleh Tue, 30 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I started dating someone who is super close to his family (talks to his mom and/or dad daily, sometimes multiple times). I have a perfectly good relationship with my family, but we talk a few times a month, not a few times a day! I'm uneasy that being in a relationship with him will mean being in an intense relationship with his family, too. Should I be worried about dating someone so tied to his mom as an adult? </p> <p>&#8212;Disturbed</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Jun 30, 2020</p> 13ec4017d784395e1db13e89220b168c Merry Goo Round for 06/23/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/06/20/merry-goo-round Tue, 23 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I'm a straight woman with a boyfriend of three months. I'm falling in love but don't know how to say it. Is there a way that's "safer" than others? Say it super casually? Slip it in at the end of a phone convo? In the middle of sex?</p> <p>&#8212;Wondering Woman</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Jun 23, 2020</p> 7c17029b44b67b4569ecb19a680e1b09 Endless LOL for 06/16/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/06/20/endless-lol Tue, 16 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i>My roommates have a text thread that includes all three of us. They chat on it all day long, and it's driving me absolutely insane. We all live together and work at home, so I don't see the need to keep texting nonstop. I turned off notifications for the group text, but that doesn't mean the convo has stopped, and I'm annoyed seeing it lit up every time I look at my phone. (What's with this ridiculous need to communicate one's every thought?) I want to tell them they need to reel it in and to leave me out of it, but I also don't want to be rude.</i></p><i> </i><p><i>&#8212;Stop, Already!</i><p>Updated: Tue Jun 16, 2020</p> f52cdc0eb4d1ab2e6a4ac7eef2d3c8e4 The Afterwife for 06/09/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/06/20/the-afterwife Tue, 09 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>My wonderful stepmom died last year, and my dad was debilitated by grief. I got him to go to a support group, which really seemed to help. He's been dating a woman he met there, and they've gotten serious. My brother says my dad wants to marry this woman. He's happy for our dad, but I'm disgusted. It's just wrong that he's with another woman so soon. My dad loved my stepmother and was a great husband, but he's now looking like a fraud because he's moved on so quickly.</p> <p>&#8212;Distraught Daughter</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue Jun 09, 2020</p> a88d9a2652d451e4d12b2764bf9e2a74 Smells Like Quarantine Spirit for 06/02/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/06/20/smells-like-quarantine-spirit-f1971 Tue, 02 Jun 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i>I started seeing a guy right before quarantine. In fact, we've broken quarantine a lot to be together at his place. I really like him, but I'm worried because our entire relationship has taken place indoors (watching movies, playing video games, sex). We have no experience together in real life, and maybe I don't know the real him. What if we go to dinner and he's rude to the wait staff? How can I figure out what kind of person he is when we can't go to places where we engage with other people?</i></p><i> </i><p><i>&#8212;Worried</i><p>Updated: Tue Jun 02, 2020</p> d181b2b2beefca988d67dce328a48385 The Son-In-Law Also Rises for 05/26/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/05/20/the-son-in-law-also-rises Tue, 26 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i>I'm meeting my girlfriend's parents for the first time (for dinner at their house), and I'm absolutely terrified. Is there a way to win them over? Should I just compliment the hell out of their daughter? She's the first woman I've seriously thought about marrying, so I really want her parents to like me.</i></p><i> </i><p><i>&#8212;The Boyfriend</i><p>Updated: Tue May 26, 2020</p> d3e340aaae5190ab12112c998624f875 Along Came Pawly for 05/19/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/05/20/along-came-pawly Tue, 19 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p><i>I've been married for two years to a woman whose sister is extremely manipulative. She finds reasons to touch me inappropriately &#8212; for example, "Your hair is so pretty. I have to pet it." She puts an arm around my shoulders or comes toward me and puts both hands around my neck. This past weekend, I was seated on the couch, and she came up behind me, grabbed me, kissed me as far down my neck as she could, and swiftly left. All of this creeps me out, but because she always does this when other relatives are around, and I'm new to the family, I don't feel I can snap at her or push her away. My wife alternates between being intimidated by her sister and feeling she has to protect her, and she refuses to say anything to her. She now seems to blame me for being offended! Do I keep trying to get through to my wife? Demand my sister-in-law explain her actions? Talk to her husband? Threaten to go to the police?</p> <p>&#8212;Repulsed</i></p> <p><p>Updated: Tue May 19, 2020</p> aa10f318b8ab033d31e1b3ce1d70f9ee When Harem Met Sally for 05/12/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/05/20/when-harem-met-sally Tue, 12 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i>My ex just started dating a female friend of his. When we were together, I always worried about the chemistry I felt they had, and it hurts that they got together right after our breakup. Does this mean he's always had feelings for her? Does it cheapen our entire relationship?</i></p><i> </i><p><i>&#8212;Bummed</i><p>Updated: Tue May 12, 2020</p> 21d7ce926fb37717b56a1e9610ea2141 Clone Shark for 05/05/2020 https://www.creators.com/read/advice-goddess-amy-alkon/05/20/clone-shark Tue, 05 May 2020 00:00:00 -0700 <p></p><p><i>I'm a gay man. I was in a relationship with my ex for about three years. We're on good terms and hang out as friends. He recently started dating a guy who looks like my long-lost twin (except he's got about 40 pounds on me). Our mutual friends find this creepy and weird, and I have to say, I do, too. </i></p><i> </i><p><i>&#8212;Disturbed</i><p>Updated: Tue May 05, 2020</p>