About Marsha Kay Seff

Marsha Kay Seff

Marsha Kay Seff

Marsha Kay Seff, a long-time newspaper reporter, is learning the ins and out and ups and downs of caregiving first-hand. She's been there, done that, and still limping along through trial and error.

A few years back, when long-distance caregiving became too impractical, she brought her mom and dad to San Diego. She sold their home in Miami Beach; her sister, Bobbe, packed and shipped the belongings their parents would need and gave away the rest. Her father has since passed away, and her mother lives in the assisted-living floor of a retirement facility.

In her spare time -- of which there's not nearly as much as BP (before parents) -- Seff enjoys traveling with her husband, Jim, and teaching water exercises at a San Diego retirement facility. "We exercise our mouths, talking and laughing, more than we exercise the rest of our bodies," she admits.

And what's wrong with that? Seff is convinced that "without laughter, growing old is no laughing matter."

Her personal experiences and those of others, as well as tips for adults caring for their parents, are included in her every-other-week column.

Family Ties Guide Sisters Through Challenges With Mom Oct 06, 2008

The three Sisters Shea are lucky. They all live nearby and are able to share caregiving responsibilities for their mom. And, perhaps, the best part, the sisters are extraordinarily close. They like each other and, more often than not, agree on what's... Read More

Helping Hand Turned Into Friendship Sep 13, 2008

BWK (boomer without kids), I often wonder who's going to look after me in my dotage. Who's going to bring me chocolate brownies? Who's going to take me to the doctor, run errands for me, read to me? Who's going to care about me? That's why I was so e... Read More

Persuading Parents to Accept Outside Care Can Be Tough Sep 01, 2008

My friend Mike recently e-mailed, asking for advice on dealing with his dad: ?My dad is now at a point where he really cannot take care of himself without a caregiver living in the home, and he refuses both to have someone move into the home or move ... Read More

Do Your Kids a Favor: Write Down Your Expectations Aug 18, 2008

I received this sweet note from a daughter the other day: "For some time now, I have been reading your wonderful column. I have made copies of various articles for reference. My mother has passed, but I am putting copies of the articles in a not... Read More