Dear Cheryl: I have a friend who recently adopted a nudist lifestyle. He has posted a sign next to his doorbell that advises people not to ring the doorbell if the sight of a nude person will shock or offend them and says they acknowledge by ringing the bell that they may witness nudity.
I remember seeing a story about a man who was arrested for indecent exposure as a result of a complaint from someone who saw him naked through the windows of his own house.
I'm trying to convince my friend that he may have some legal troubles if he answers his door in the nude. He claims he's protected because of the warning sign. What do you think? — Concerned Friend Afraid It's All Going to Hang out
Dear CFAIAGTHO: This is so above my pay grade.
Are there any lawyers out there who want to handle this one?
Dear Cheryl: I fell for my physical therapist. When I first met her, I didn't think anything much. I was recovering from a severe injury. However, after four months, I thought that she was interested in me and I started to fall for her. Unfortunately, because of the obvious ethical concerns, I wasn't able to say anything. But I loved going to my appointments.
I spent the next four months waiting to ask her out. I felt a connection that I'd never felt before. For many reasons, I was sure that it was mutual.
Well, she let me down easy in the end, saying that the ethical standards of her profession precluded her dating former clients. I told her I respected her decision. We said a few more nice things and shook hands. I hope I left with some dignity, even though I unfortunately had a very red face.
I've never been this heartbroken. I used to think I was good at knowing when a girl liked me so I could avoid getting hurt. She's left me confused and clueless. What really hurts is that I'll never know what she actually felt or what really happened. Was there really any connection between us, or was it all one-sided?
What signs of interest and noninterest do women give? — My Body Is Mended, but My Heart Is an Open Wound
Dear MBISBMHIAOW: First of all, physical therapists tend to be really friendly, empathetic people who enjoy helping others. Second, there can be a lot of touching in therapy. Third, if I counted right, you saw this woman for eight months. That's a long time. (Kudos to your insurance company!) A bond was bound to develop.
Now, was it just a bond of friendship? Or did she really have romantic feelings toward you? And did they change? Or is she a flirt who comes on to all her clients?
I'm not buying her ethical excuse. According to the American Physical Therapists Association's Guide for Professional Conduct, "The Committee does not believe it feasible to establish any bright-line rule for when, if ever, initiation of a romantic/sexual relationship with a former patient would be ethically permissible." It doesn't say anything about former patients/clients.
The bottom line: What difference does it make? She didn't want a relationship with you. Let it go.
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