Q: We are a loving family with a wonderful son and daughter. We love my husband (their father) so much but struggle to find a perfect gift for Father's Day every year. He always answers that he has everything he needs already.
Any hints about what we can do?
A: Most fathers see their role as a loving guardian, income provider and role model. They view themselves as the most able to keep their family safe and respond in family emergencies, differences or other issues that arise. He is often the best referee.
However, a father's role is changing as many mothers have taken on full-time or part-time work. This often means that fathers are assuming more time and responsibility for raising their children by helping with household duties.
Now, a father's major concern is loving and appreciating his wife as well as being loving toward his children. He wants his family members to be supportive and caring toward one another.
What dads want most is time with their family because that is often the most difficult thing to do with busy lifestyles today. A successful Father's Day is not about money or gifts; it's about you.
As a father and grandfather myself, I assure you that your father will think the same.
Enjoy the day together! — Doug
Q: I retired three years ago, and I'm not sure this is the life for me. I used to look forward to finishing my career and seeking new pursuits, but I find myself bored more often than I'd like.
What can I do to fill the time?
A: According to my grandfather, the following is a foolproof plan:
Plan daily visits to the local Goodwill shop, and buy as you please. You will become acquainted with the staff and find occasion to socialize while learning about exciting incoming merchandise. Proceed until you've filled your home with purchases. Then, invite your relatives or friends to visit. They will give you invaluable advice about how to remove all your clutter by doing a time-consuming spring-cleaning project (or any other favorite season). Sort through your possessions until your home is pristine.
Then, repeat the process as needed.
You could also try something that you never had time to pursue, like a hobby. While many retirees look forward to travel, they end up spending most of the year at home. To fill your days, find an interesting, challenging hobby. The best method is to search for something that you can learn about and improve at, like gardening. You can find helpful books at Goodwill.
Joining a social group is another great option for expanding your horizons. You can look into a book club, volunteering, or perhaps a religious association, retiree association or dating organization. Ideally, you will find a good mix of solitary and communal activities.
If all else fails, there's always drinking. — Emma, Doug's granddaughter
Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at [email protected] Emma, Doug's granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.