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Actually, I called this one. Ask my son. Whore, she said, she being me. It was the only defense. Rich guy has sex with hotel maid. What can you say? True love. Not likely. Quote Bernard Shaw. What was her price?

OK, so half the people think he's been put through the wringer, and half think she has — at least when they aren't thinking about how a woman who very clearly killed her child, but probably didn't mean to (a.k.a. prosecutorial overreaching), gets away with murder. What a wonderful world. Injustice is gender neutral.

What I care about is all the other women: the women who really were raped, the women who are afraid to report, the women who will turn away from all of this coverage, who will tense up when men start talking about the poor Frenchman who thought he was doing it with a prostitute and not a woman with a right to consent. I know what these women will do next, or rather, what they won't. They will not tell anyone what really happened to them.

I'm not trying to defend women who lie; they should be put, smack ready, in exactly the category of men who lie, usually about other things, like life or death or money.

But most women don't lie. Matter of fact, they don't tell the truth in the first place.

Year after year, I write these words. Rape is not the crime most lied about, quite the contrary. If you look at the statistics, rape is the violent crime least likely to be reported. The danger is not that so many women lie (painful though it is to watch), but that so many are afraid to tell the truth.

What do you say to them? The real victims. The women who have been casually or cruelly or violently stripped of their self-esteem, their faith in anything, their souls.

They come to my office all the time, close the door, lower their voices, and then we cry. Do I tell them this won't happen to you, unless the guy you're accusing happens to be a powerful and well-connected IMF guy? That you won't be put through the wringer, too?

Wringers come in many sizes.

You don't have to be in the middle of a tabloid explosion when you're living in a small world — small town, big university, it's all the same.

I will never forget what those Boston police officers said to me when I was in the back of the car, a nice girl, raped at the point of an ice pick. Is there anything about you that you wouldn't want some lawyer digging into?

Anything about me. What did I have to do with it?

Sometimes I turn it into a joke. How could there possibly be anything for me to hide when I spent the past three years at Wellesley? Everyone laughs. Wellesley is a women's college.

Sometimes I just shake my head. Exactly who is supposed to be on trial here?

Over the years, I have learned a very painful lesson. In most rape stories, everyone lies a little. Sex between strangers is rarely very pretty. Truth be told, a rich Frenchman shouldn't be having sex with a poor and desperate hotel maid. Can we agree on that? Crime or not, it is horrendously bad judgment for someone who is supposed to be managing the world's money.

But you don't go to prison for bad judgment. If that is all that can be proved, you don't go to trial. Over and done. The Frenchman may not get his reputation back (and he will never be alone in this lament), but it remains to be seen just what reputation he deserves.

In the meantime, there is the matter of the other women. And men. Men underreport rape even more than women do. Stigma is gender neutral, as well. Indeed, if there is anything worse in the rape world than being a female victim, it is being a male victim.

So the message goes out yet again: Watch out. Men, watch out for those women you think you can treat like toilet paper; they may come back to catch you. Watch out when you have sex with someone you don't know, don't trust, wouldn't, say, lend your wallet to. Watch out, indeed. You should be doing that anyway.

And what is the message to women?

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"What I care about is all the other women: the women who really were raped. Quote Bernard Shaw. What was her price?" An equally valid question is what was your price Susan when you defended and or would not come out against Bill Clinton, who over a period of thirty years assaulted or raped more then a dozen women, including but not limited to Juanita Broaddrick, Eileen Wellstone, Elizabeth Ward, Paula Corbin, Sandra Allen James, Kathleen Willey. It seems that you cared little for these women. Seems your caring for the other women instantly evaporates so soon as it becomes politically inconvenient for the Democratic Party and or liberalism. Now that it is known what trade you ply the only fact to ascertain your price .

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Posted by: joseph wright
Wed Jul 6, 2011 3:29 PM


"Some found it surprising that one of Arnold Schwarzenegger's most outspoken defenders against charges of groping and harassing women was Susan Estrich, the feminist law professor, who has, by her own account, "spent much of my professional life fighting to reform the law regarding rape and protect women against sexual harassment." "



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"As it turns out, Estrich's unlikely support of Schwarzenegger has a precedent: When Clinton had his difficulties with Paula Jones, Juanita Broderick, Kathleen Willey, Monica Lewinksy, et al., Estrich rallied to his defense. She said in Slate and elsewhere that she was sure that he would not have done it. Why? For one thing, "Bill Clinton was my friend." For another thing, "He didn't have to." "



What the evolution of Estrich's views does tell us though, is that the kind of burning melodrama that surrounds sexual issues vanishes as quickly as it appears; that a woman who can write passionately about "women's silence" one minute can later take a man's side. It is precisely the opinions that seem the most rigid, absolute, and emotional that are subject to the whims of fashion.


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On a recent Sean Hannity radio show, Estrich told Sean that she believes Bill Clinton did not rape Juanita Broaddrick because Bill told her so. Essentially, she called Juanita a liar.



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Thus, Susan has a history of defending powerful (liberal) men who abuse women and calling such women liars. Ironically, such betrayal of her fellow women victims may cause more damage to women than the rapist themselves. For the rapists can only rape one woman at a time whereas those who defend rapists enable all future rapists, and thus, have at least a small part in the deed. Such is called Karma.



KARMA : action, seen as bringing upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad .. . that said, Karma is not punishment or retribution but simply an extended expression or consequence of natural acts. Karma means "deed" or "act" and more broadly names the universal principle of cause and effect, action and reaction, that governs all life.



Thus, more rape and abust of women is simply a logical extended expression of Susan's defense of "Liberal" male rapists.

Comment: #2
Posted by: SusansMirror
Thu Jul 7, 2011 12:14 PM
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