Wonky Sleep Patterns Disturbing the Peace Dear Annie: My husband and I have been married for 20 years, and we have three children under 15. He has always been a bit of a night owl, but now, in his mid-50s, he's turning into my 80-year-old father. My husband works from 8 a.m. until 5, comes …Read more. Doing Right By Kitty Dear Annie: My son and his wife have an elderly cat who scratches herself raw. One night, I noticed that the poor thing had bleeding scabs. I asked how long it had been going on, and they said, "Years." I had no idea this cat was suffering. My son …Read more. Care for the Caregivers Dear Annie: I am a caregiver. There are millions of us dispensing love 24 hours a day for weeks, months, even years to incapacitated family members. We have no sick days or vacation days. Sleep is a thing of the past. If we are not caring for loved …Read more. Friendly Fire Dear Annie: My 50-something sister, "Denise," has turned into a hostile, critical person. I visit my family four times a year and have witnessed her angry outbursts firsthand. My other siblings have become very proficient at pacifying Denise by …Read more.more articles
Three-Way Friendships Require Reassurance To Combat Hormones
Dear Annie: I'm 16 years old, and I have two best friends, "Krystina" and "Tayler," who mean the world to me. Lately, Krystina has been full of drama. She often says she feels left out and hurt. But, Annie, we never do anything without including her.
Recently, she's been pulling this whole "you guys never tell me anything until two weeks later" thing. But I usually tell her everything at the same time I tell Tayler. She even knows stuff about me that Tayler doesn't. But she claims that Tayler tells me personal things that she doesn't repeat. That's not true, and Tayler confirmed that the three of us learn everything at the same time. If we miss something, it's because it's so unimportant that we forget.
But I will admit that sometimes I withhold things because I know Krystina will judge me and make me feel bad when I need her support the most. Still, those times are rare, and I always tell her relatively soon. Yet when I say this to her, it's like we have two different versions of reality.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose Krystina's friendship. I feel terrible that she's hurting over this, but I have no idea how to change it. I can't text her every time I dye my hair or buy a hamburger, and neither can Tayler. But then, neither does Krystina. So what do we do? — Stuck in the Middle
Dear Stuck: Three-way friendships are sometimes hard to navigate, particularly in high school, when hormones are running rampant and emotions are harder to control. Krystina's reality actually is a little different, and we suspect she feels she is competing for your affection. The best you can do is frequently reassure her that you value her friendship, think she's a great person and want to stay close. Try not to exclude her, and address her lack of support with honesty at the time it happens. The rest is up to her.
Dear Annie: I am married to the greatest woman in the world.
The problem is that lately my libido seems to be almost not there. My wife takes the brunt of my failure in the bedroom and often remarks that I don't find her attractive. But I do. I am more in love with her now than when we married.
We want children, and obviously, this hampers my ability to reproduce. I've been thinking about adoption. With my limitations, how do I make my wife feel as amazing as she is? — Want To Feel Young Again
Dear Want: Please make an appointment to see your doctor, and ask about changing your medications. Sometimes a little tweaking can work wonders. More importantly, take your wife with you so the doctor can explain how certain medications might interfere with your sex life. There is no reason for her to take this so personally. Frank and frequent communication is the best way to handle it, and work on other ways to make your wife feel amazing in the bedroom.
Dear Annie: Like "Undecided Mom," I have boxes of childhood memorabilia for my grown children, who now have children of their own. Instead of continuing to store their stuff, I've been "gifting" them with a year's worth of their childhood at a time.
When my daughter's first baby was born, I gave her everything I'd saved from her own first year. I loved looking through it. When that first grandchild entered 4th grade last fall, he thought it was great to see his mom's old report cards, projects and pictures from when she was his age. We've shared a lot of laughs and memories this way. — Memory Lane Traveler
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