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Annie's Mailbox®, March 22
Dear Annie: My husband and I have a 22-year-old daughter who still lives at home. "Ashley" has been dating the same guy for five years, but we can count on one hand the number of times he has come to our house. We go out of our way to make …Read more.
Annie's Mailbox®, March 21
Dear Annie: My brother's girlfriend recently became pregnant. The problem is my mother. When I was pregnant with my 2-year-old son, I had no contact with my family, partly because my mother dislikes my husband. When my husband and I separated for a …Read more.
Annie's Mailbox®, March 20
Dear Annie: My son was recently married in a small, private ceremony. For some unknown reason, my mother did not want to attend, but eventually, she and my father decided to show up.
The entire time, my mother acted very rudely toward my son, my in-…Read more.
Annie's Mailbox®, March 19
Dear Annie: My son and his wife have been married 12 years and have two beautiful daughters. But I am terribly concerned about their eating habits. This is doubly difficult, as my daughter-in-law is the boss in this family and thinks she knows …Read more.
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ANNIE'S MAILBOX(R)
Dear Annie: I am a happily married straight male and am having a problem with a co-worker. "Gil" is a self-proclaimed bisexual. Even though he is fully aware of my orientation, he constantly makes lewd comments to me. He also invites me to his home for dinner on a regular basis — without my wife, of course. Gil is senior to me at work. Because of his stature, I am hesitant to report his behavior. How can I resolve this? — Need Guidance Dear Need Guidance: Gil is guilty of sexual harassment. Tell him you find his comments unprofessional and inappropriate and you want him to stop. If he keeps it up, speak to his boss or someone in human resources. He is leaving the company open to a lawsuit. Dear Annie: My husband is approaching 60, and I've long been frustrated with our poor communication. Counseling has been useless since his participation was minimal. I suspect he has Asperger syndrome. I've done some reading online, and "Ron" exhibits nearly all the traits of this disorder. I struggle with depression myself, and the prospect of dealing with this situation for the rest of my life fills me with sadness. Leaving is not financially possible. I've read about treatment options, but I doubt Ron would be willing to make the effort. I find it hard to fully express my feelings, even in a professional setting, so I'm hesitant to seek counseling on my own. I don't have the kind of friends I can talk to about this. I feel so alone. Where do I go from here? — Hopeless Dear Hopeless: You might benefit from contacting an online support group for spouses dealing with this disorder. Online chat groups will allow you to "listen in" without participating until you are ready. Try MAAP Services, Inc. (maapservices.org), P.O. Box 524, Crown Point, IN 46307, the Autism Society (autism-society.org) or the online Asperger's forum at autism.about.com. Dear Annie: Perhaps you will let me talk to "Unappreciated," who works for a small family-owned company. I, too, have a small family-owned business. Our sales are down, and we currently have a freeze on salary and benefit improvements. Occasionally, I hear a comment about the fact that my husband and I live in a fine house, drive nice cars and take vacations. Here are the differences: Our morale is high. Our employees know sales figures and profit margins. They know that two of our employees actually make more than we do, and that the only people who have taken a pay cut are my husband and I. They've seen that the recession has not had a positive effect on our marriage or our health. They've seen us work many weekends. They know we are not too proud to clean the toilets or do any other job. "Unappreciated's" employers may be making many sacrifices she is unaware of because the bosses have mistakenly chosen to keep things to themselves rather than consider their employees to be partners in their own success. I suggest she spend this time taking classes or learning new skills. It's a good time to hunker down and find ways to create value for the company. When times improve, she will be better positioned to move to another company if she wishes. In the meantime, she should be grateful to have a job. Your suggestion that she express herself to her employer makes her look like a whiner. I had better not hear this type of thing from my staff. This has been hard on everyone. — Been There, Too Dear Been There: You had us on your side until the last few sentences. We're glad you've found a way to make employees feel valued. But no hardworking employee with a legitimate concern should be considered a "whiner." Annie's Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column. Please e-mail your questions to anniesmailbox@comcast.net, or write to: Annie's Mailbox, P.O. Box 118190, Chicago, IL 60611. To find out more about Annie's Mailbox, and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2009 CREATORS.COM
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