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Dim And Her for 02/08/2012

Wed, 08 Feb 2012 00:00:00 -0800

I'm having a whirlwind romance with a man I met online on Thanksgiving. I moved across the country to live with him on December 20, and we're now building a life together. The problem is I have a high IQ (137), and he's very unintelligent and illogical. It's hard to have a good conversation unless we talk about sex. It's too late to leave now, so ... any advice on how to keep our IQ differ ...

Updated: Wed Feb 08, 2012

Shove Thy Neighbor for 02/07/2012

Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:00:00 -0800

My commitment-phobic boyfriend of several years is also my neighbor. I resolved to make it work with him and then caught him on FriendFinder exchanging numerous messages with some woman in Tijuana. He claimed he was just being friendly. I asked if he'd correspond with a guy. He responded, "No. I'm not gay." Humiliatingly, I've let him use me for things he can't afford. (He's been ...

Updated: Tue Feb 07, 2012

Code Goo for 01/31/2012

Tue, 31 Jan 2012 00:00:00 -0800

I'm a 33-year-old nurse in a five-month "friends with benefits" thing with a doctor co-worker. I am only 18 months out of an abusive 10-year relationship and wanted something fun and light. We get along well, but he rarely asks me ahead of time about getting together. I know he has a busy schedule, but this bothers me. He will do anything I ask (give me a ride, buy me a coffee if ...

Updated: Tue Jan 31, 2012

Witchful Thinking for 01/24/2012

Tue, 24 Jan 2012 00:00:00 -0800

I'm a retired pastor in my 50s. A nearby church wanted my help with their Christmas musical, and I asked my wife of five years, who played bass at my church, to join me. She became angry at this suggestion and said I should do my own thing on Christmas and she'd do hers. She then announced that she'd be spending Christmas Eve with her (single, lonely) ex-boyfriend, staying the night at his ...

Updated: Tue Jan 24, 2012

I Smell A Rut for 01/17/2012

Tue, 17 Jan 2012 00:00:00 -0800

I just got dumped by a guy who swore he was ready to settle down (after years of serial monogamy). His relationship history reminded me of the man you wrote about recently who had been married and divorced five times and was on relationship number six. Woman number six wrote you, "He's in his 50s; his marriage-hopping has to stop." Obviously, she's fooling herself, but what's his ...

Updated: Tue Jan 17, 2012

Brief-Stricken for 01/10/2012

Tue, 10 Jan 2012 00:00:00 -0800

A divorced male friend and I recently became "friends with benefits." However, I'm not receiving the same, uh, level of benefits as he is. He isn't giving me orgasms from intercourse, and his pleasuring of me is measured in seconds rather than minutes, despite my telling him that this is a problem. (I haven't felt this pressure before: "You've got 60 seconds to orgasm!" ...

Updated: Tue Jan 10, 2012

The Cad Catalogue for 01/03/2012

Tue, 03 Jan 2012 00:00:00 -0800

Three years ago, I was divorced six weeks from a 22-year marriage when I got involved with a married co-worker and persuaded him to divorce his wife for me. He has been married five times and cheated on all of his wives. I have reason to believe he's still having sex with his ex-wife. I'm not sure what to do. I refinanced my house a few months after meeting him and paid off his and his wif ...

Updated: Tue Jan 03, 2012

Axing A Girl Out for 12/27/2011

Tue, 27 Dec 2011 00:00:00 -0800

You overlooked the danger when you replied to the woman who was invited on a hiking date by a man she'd had a crush on. You said that he probably got interested because he saw her with her new boyfriend. Well, he could also have wanted to murder her because of that. Every year, there's news of a female body being found in a remote area — or not found after a disappearance. — Pr ...

Updated: Tue Dec 27, 2011

Blister Wonderful for 12/20/2011

Tue, 20 Dec 2011 00:00:00 -0800

I'm starting to have feelings for this guy friend I've been fooling around with, but I'm worried he isn't feeling the same way. He's stopped short of having full-blown intercourse with me, which I find odd, although I don't want to have sex yet because I have genital herpes and I'm not ready to tell him. (I take an antiviral drug for this daily, and I'd have him wear protection during inter ...

Updated: Tue Dec 20, 2011

Her Best Friend's Waiting for 12/13/2011

Tue, 13 Dec 2011 00:00:00 -0800

My girlfriend's best friend is her ex. They broke up six years ago (upon mutual agreement). She swears she's much happier being his friend and says they both feel they weren't meant to be romantic partners. Well, she clearly adores the hell out of him, and he's her go-to guy for her problems (family, career, and probably any issues with me). She respects my opinion, but sometimes I feel sh ...

Updated: Tue Dec 13, 2011

Pest Wife Regression for 12/06/2011

Tue, 06 Dec 2011 00:00:00 -0800

Two years ago, my man left his 22-year marriage to be with me, but he told me he loved his former wife and would always want a friendship with her. I accepted that (I'm friends with my ex), but I'm bothered by the amount of contact they have. They do have two adult children and own property together. But, although she's living with a new partner, she sometimes wants to borrow his car, have ...

Updated: Tue Dec 06, 2011

Give Till It Hertz for 11/29/2011

Tue, 29 Nov 2011 00:00:00 -0800

For 10 years, this woman and I have had a hot-and-cold long-distance relationship, the temperature of which she's always controlled. She's 56; I'm 46. Last year, she felt ready to try for something lasting. She couldn't afford to travel, so I paid for her flight. She stayed with me for two wonderful, passionate months, and then we vacationed together in February. I paid for her flight, ren ...

Updated: Tue Nov 29, 2011

Snorting Hope for 11/22/2011

Tue, 22 Nov 2011 00:00:00 -0800

I've been with my boyfriend for three years. The first year was rocky. He was selling drugs, got addicted, and went to prison. Three months after getting out, he relapsed. I persuaded his mother to send him to rehab, and afterward I found us an apartment, where we've been for six months. He has remained drug-free, helps with cooking and cleaning, and pays half the rent and bills. His job j ...

Updated: Tue Nov 22, 2011

Slipping Beauty for 11/15/2011

Tue, 15 Nov 2011 00:00:00 -0800

I'm in a great relationship of seven months. My boyfriend and I never get sick of each other. We respect each other and are there for each other, and we talk very openly, even when we're upset. His ex-girlfriend is part of our group of friends. She is thin and very pretty. I know I'm attractive, but I'm struggling to lose these 10 pounds I put on in college. Also, she's super-sweet, and sh ...

Updated: Tue Nov 15, 2011

Flee Circus for 11/08/2011

Tue, 08 Nov 2011 00:00:00 -0800

I have a good relationship with my boyfriend of a year except for how he ignores me when he's stressed. The first time this happened, he disappeared for a week and didn't respond to texts or voicemails. He later explained he'd been swamped with work and apologized repeatedly. Last weekend, he again disappeared for a week. After I texted and left voicemails, he finally texted, "Work is ...

Updated: Tue Nov 08, 2011

Whiff The Wrong Man for 11/01/2011

Tue, 01 Nov 2011 00:00:00 -0700

I admire that you often add research to your columns, so I thought I'd ask you about an article I read on birth control pills. Apparently, taking the pill can cause the "wrong" man to smell good to you — a man you might not be into once you're off the pill. Unfortunately, I experience severe mood swings when I'm not taking the pill — uncontrollable rages for about a w ...

Updated: Tue Nov 01, 2011

All Work And No Foreplay for 10/25/2011

Tue, 25 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700

My husband and I are entrepreneurs, developing a new product. We're both working long hours. He's miserable because he has no time for his art (painting), and our sex life is in shambles. There isn't a lot of blame or anger. We simply go about our entire days with little or no flirting and fall into bed completely exhausted at night. Even if we crave sex, we're too tired. We kiss goodnight ...

Updated: Tue Oct 25, 2011

Prince Harming for 10/18/2011

Tue, 18 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700

I feel like a disappointment to my boyfriend of seven months. I'm 28; he's 35 and Mr. Smart. He is a Brit and was a top student at Cambridge. He says everyone expected him to become Prime Minister, but he decided to buck their expectations and become a portrait painter. Although he earns a good living, I believe he considers himself a failure compared with the wealthy Brits commissioning hi ...

Updated: Tue Oct 18, 2011

Helen Of Toy for 10/11/2011

Tue, 11 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700

My wife of three years complains that I'm not romantic anymore. In the beginning, I did romantic stuff all the time. I still love her very much, but I guess I'm subconsciously reacting to the fact that I've nabbed her forever. (There's definitely something to be said about "the thrill of the chase.") How can I let her know I still care? — Comfortably Wed

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Updated: Tue Oct 11, 2011

Girl With A Wait Problem for 10/04/2011

Tue, 04 Oct 2011 00:00:00 -0700

I met a really great girl before deploying to Iraq. We've gotten as close as two people can while physically separate, but she is sexually frustrated to the max and wants to have an unemotional hookup. She suggests we each have a "last fling" before we start our relationship (when my deployment ends in 60 days). Well, I'm in an all-male unit, and when I'm home, I want to be with ...

Updated: Tue Oct 04, 2011