Dear Larry: How should I respond to "interested parties" who want to discuss how I am planning to vote in this upcoming presidential election?

I do not appreciate people prying because I am not the type of person who likes to discuss my political views, especially with people who are not close to me. But many of the people I talk to feel they must bring up politics.

This particular upcoming election has a great amount of historical significance because one of the contenders is black. I once made the mistake of stating that I do not plan to vote this year because I do not feel that either candidate represents my views. The person responded to my face that I am a bigot because I am not endorsing Obama.

I realize the significance of his nomination, but I do not feel that I should vote for him because of the color of his skin.

I was taught that voting is an obligation, not only to your country but also to yourself. I would feel like a hypocrite if I voted for someone with whom I do not agree. I am not endorsing McCain, either, because he also does not match my beliefs.

Larry, I do not think it is right to be criticized because I am not choosing a candidate based on his skin color. I refuse to have my vote used as a litmus test for whether I am a racist.

How do you suggest handling such uncomfortable confrontations? — Teresa

Dear Teresa: The best way to handle this problem is to never give your opinion regarding the election. If someone asks how you are going to vote, merely say, "Voting is a private matter, and that is why there are curtains in voting booths."

If you do get into a conversation and you are accused of being a bigot, tell them, "A bigot is someone who would make a choice on the basis of someone's color."

As an aside, I believe you are wrong not to vote. People have died so that you could have the opportunity to choose your leader. It is a cop-out to sit on the fence and not vote because you don't like either candidate. You never will find a candidate who perfectly matches your personal positions. I believe the correct way to vote is to pick the person who comes closest to your positions, even if you have to hold your nose in order to vote.

Voting is a privilege and a right. VOTE!

Dear Larry: I want to respond to Alma, the woman who is tired of her husband not working outside the home.

Marriage is not for everyone, and the work place is not for everyone. I would suggest that Alma consider encouraging her husband to become a volunteer in their community.

I believe volunteerism is a great virtue and well worth the time. Being a community volunteer would benefit the husband and the community. A person so involved would be enriched greatly, and it can open unexpected doors. — Karen

Dear Karen: Great idea. It is a win-win.

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