Dear Annie: I am a newlywed of three months. From the day I met my husband, he pulled out all the stops, impressing me with little surprises, candlelit lovemaking sessions and compliments galore, and kept me laughing until my ribs ached. He was exactly what I was looking for and I wouldn't settle for less.

A month after our wedding, all of that has been forgotten. He's apparently won his prize and now doesn't have to work for it. Granted, he brings me flowers once or twice a month and still spends all his spare time with me, but I miss the endless romantic he was before. He has stopped initiating sex entirely. On our honeymoon, we were intimate exactly once.

It seems too early in the marriage for romance to fizzle so completely. Am I being selfish and expecting too much, or should I stand my ground and battle it out for what I need and want? — Want My Romeo Back

Dear Want My Romeo: Yes and no. You are expecting too much to think Romeo is going to romance you with the same energy he did when you were dating, and we must say, flowers every month is nothing to complain about. However, never initiating sex and being intimate once in a honeymoon sounds like it could be a problem. Ask him to talk to his doctor and have a complete blood work-up and a physical, and if he is OK, please consider counseling to see if there's more going on than meets the eye.

Dear Annie: I lost my 18-year-old granddaughter in a car accident last September. I am still grieving.

My question is, I have videos of my granddaughter taken since the day she was born until the day before she died. I have put together photo albums of her entire life. When she was 2, I purchased a cabinet for her to place some of her keepsakes in. I had intended to give her all these things when she married. I wanted her children to enjoy her history with her. This is not going to happen now.

What am I to do with all these things? Her mother has no interest in any of it.

I will keep the videos because I watch them, but I don't know what to do with the cabinet and photographs. Shall I hang on to everything and let someone else worry about it after I die? — Missing My Angel

Dear Missing: Please accept our condolences on your heartbreaking loss, and understand that it is much too soon to be making this decision. Her mother may change her mind down the road, or if your granddaughter had siblings, one of them may someday want these keepsakes. You might bring up the subject again when your family's grief is not so fresh. For the time being, we recommend you transfer the videos to DVD so the technology won't outpace your ability to watch them. We'll be thinking of you.

Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Falling Out of Love," whose husband is in a "narcotic fog."

Physicians and pain researchers have only recently begun to appreciate that men who are prescribed long-acting opioid medications for chronic pain frequently experience the signs and symptoms of testosterone deficiency, which include decreased libido, erectile dysfunction, tiredness, depressed mood, and hot flashes or night sweats.

The good news is that testosterone deficiency is readily diagnosed by a blood test and can be safely and successfully treated with a variety of testosterone preparations, including injections, transdermal patches and topical gels. "Falling Out of Love" should encourage her husband to be evaluated for testosterone deficiency and treated if he has it. It could improve their relationship and possibly save their marriage. — Norm Mazer, M.D., Ph.D., Framingham, Mass.

Dear Dr. Mazer: Thanks for your informative letter. We hope any man in a similar situation takes this column to his physician for further discussion.

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