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Q. Because of limited work available as a part-time plumber and repairman, a friend recommended me to cook meals for a 92-year-old man and his 100-year-old wife. I was hired, and now I am a full-time caretaker, which even includes vacation pay.

However, the couple's son is now pushing his parents toward moving them to an assisted living facility because of their ages and extended family issues. I understand if they move, I will not have a job, and that is OK. I have become an enthusiastic caretaker and am thinking of making it my permanent career. What is your advice?

A. When an individual finds a passion in life, the work no longer feels like a job, but a reason for being. I vote for you to move forward with your newfound passion!

Obviously, you have been working for exceptional employers. Even in this challenging job market, experts agree the need for health care workers will continue to boom.

The benefits of being self-employed include maintaining a good and regular income, flexible scheduling, the capability of choosing your patients and the joy of making a difference.

Be aware how different we become as we age. Coping with health issues, deteriorating memories, loneliness, negative attitudes and the effects of pain medications often causes seniors to become, angry, impatient and demanding. Dealing with them becomes your challenge.

Begin planning to market yourself. Ask your employers and their son for recommendation letters. Design a professional brochure that details your background, enthusiasm and skills. Distribute them to prospects in active retirement communities.

Network doctors and friends. Offer a coupon for a free two-hour introductory session. Advertise in retirement community magazines.

Volunteer at senior centers to meet peers and improve your knowledge. Many websites offer details about career-oriented caretaking. There are fewer male caregivers than females, which could prove to be an advantage if patients need to be lifted or moved.

Each state publishes its own caretaking licensing and regulations. Check out the Texas Careers website for more information in your state.

Caring for seniors is a labor of love and offers a unique opportunity to enhance the quality of life for others. "Focus on where you want to go, not what you fear" is Anthony Robbins' guideline.

Q. The Social Security Administration has announced seniors will not receive the annual cost of living adjustment in 2010, and probably not in 2011. We have always counted on a little increase, and know we have to tighten our belts a bit more. Do you have any suggestions?

A. Many seniors are also struggling to cope. Even breakfast costs are surging with tea, cocoa, sugar and orange juice reaching near all-time price highs.

The proposed one-time $250 bonus for Social Security members, if approved, will help. Plan to eat out half as often; plan your meals around food sales and coupons; check your closet to avoid buying duplicates; cut back on household help and gardeners; and consider part time work.

Over time, we rely on familiar habits, which we believe to be essential. Taking time to reset and revaluate your needs could prove to be successful!

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California Retirement community. Contact him at deardoug@msn.com. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.