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Love Is the Key to Successful Parenting
DR. WALLACE: I am a single parent of an 11-year-old daughter and a 13-year-old son. I had a lot of problems as a teen because my parents were super lenient in controlling me. Let's say I could do almost anything that I wanted with no questions asked.…Read more.
Give Intelligent Young Women a Break
DR. WALLACE: I'm angry that you encourage all girls, even the mentally, emotionally and physically mature young women who happen to be teenagers, not to get involved with older guys. You are dead wrong in your assumption that older guys and teenage …Read more.
Open and Honest Conversation Is Paramount
DR. WALLACE: Please tell me what to do. I'm 20, married three years and the mother of a 2-year-old son. I love my husband very much, but I'm lonely and depressed. My husband works 12 to 16 hours, 6 days a week. I have no friends, no job and no time …Read more.
My Friend's Mother Helps Her Cheat
DR. WALLACE: We have homework four days a week in world history. I do all my homework by myself, but my best friend's mother helps her with hers. I average a B on my homework, but my friend averages an A. I don't believe this is fair. Both of us are …Read more.
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She Didn't Make Love, She Had SexDR. WALLACE: I'm responding to the girl who said she made love with at least 15 different boys over a four-year period. She was now speaking out against "making love" because she had learned her lesson. She didn't make love; she had sex. Well, I'm a 17-year-old girl who "makes love" and enjoys an active sexual life. My boyfriend and I have known each other for many years and we're deeply in love. We thoroughly discussed the whole situation before we began our intimate relationship. We were aware of the entire emotional and physical aspects of a loving sexual relationship. We even decided on the best possible birth control to use. What I'm trying to say, Dr. Wallace, is that we prepared. We didn't just go at it like two oversexed rabbits. — C.J., Austin, Texas. C.J.: I'm glad you and your partner are taking precautions against unwanted pregnancy. However, many girls who have taken the best precautions and thought they could handle the situation have wound up pregnant, alone and distraught. Even if you avoid the life-altering, instant responsibility of pregnancy, you and your boyfriend are embarking on dangerous emotional territory. I have received countless letters over the years from teens — mostly girls — telling me how much they regretted giving in to a guy's sexual demands. More often than not, having sex was the beginning of the end of what had been a good relationship. What's the big hurry? You'll have plenty of time for that after you say your wedding vows. DON'T PAY TO HAVE POETRY PUBLISHED DR.
After several weeks, my sister received a letter congratulating her on her excellent poem. A week later, they requested money from her to get the book that contained her poem. A few weeks later, along came another letter with an offer to buy an audiotape collection with someone reading my sister's poem. My sister wanted to purchase these products, but thank goodness, our parents said no. — Nameless, Richmond, Va. NAMELESS: There are some publishers that try to make a dollar exploiting people's dreams of seeing their names in print. Such publications are illegitimate in the sense that they have no real readership, except the authors themselves, who often pay money for the "privilege" of being published. Believe me, this is not the real thing. The best place for young writers to see their work in print is the school newspaper. Beyond that, they should try the local newspaper and/or magazines they actually read or can find in the library. I don't recommend paying someone to publish works of upcoming young authors. Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2010 CREATORS.COM
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