Mike's Mom Thinks I'm Pushy by Dr. Robert Wallace on Creators.com

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Mike's Mom Thinks I'm Pushy

DR. WALLACE: My boyfriend and I broke up for a very stupid reason. We have been dating regularly for about a year. Last month, we decided to let the world know at a party that we will be in love forever. Last week, Mike told me that he still loved me very much but that he had to break up with me because his mother felt I was "pushy."

At first, I thought that he was just kidding around, but I soon found out that he was serious. When two people break up because of differences between them, they can usually patch things up, but what can one do when it's the guy's mother who needs a "patch job"? I talked with my friends, teachers and my parents and not one of them thinks that I'm "pushy." What can I do to save my romance? I really do love Mike — very much. — Nameless, Evansville, Ind.

NAMELESS: Visit Mike's mother and pleasantly tell her that you really care for Mike and that you were disappointed when he broke up with you because she felt you were pushy. Inform her that you were not aware you had this undesirable trait, but ask her to help you overcome it. Ask if Mike, she and you could meet and discuss things. Remember, just because this mother feels you are pushy (if she indeed does), doesn't mean that you are. Use your intelligence and intuition to get Mike's mom to agree that Mike and you belong together.

MY FRIEND MIGHT HAVE A BREAKDOWN

DR. WALLACE: My girlfriend's mother is very mean to her.

In fact, I feel her mother may have a mental problem. My friend won't be doing anything wrong and all of a sudden her mom goes berserk and starts throwing things at her. My girlfriend's nerves are so fragile that I feel she is going to have a breakdown. Is there anything my friend can do to be protected from her mother? Where should she go for assistance? - Nameless, Hagerstown, Md.

NAMELESS: Have your friend share her problem with the school counselor or nurse. If your friend refuses to do so, then take it upon yourself to share her problem with one of these professionals who will know how to help her.

I VOTE YES

DR. WALLACE: I'm not permitted to date until I'm 15. I've always known this and respected my parents' rule. I'm 14 years, 11 months and 7 days old as I write this letter. The cutest boy in my grade has asked me to go out with him to celebrate his 16th birthday with his parents next week. I'll be 13 days shy of my 15th birthday. Do you think I should be permitted to date this "dream guy" even though I'm technically not 15? My parents will take your advice. — Nameless, Michigan City, Ind.

NAMELESS: I vote yes. Go out and have a wonderful time. "Dream dates" are difficult to turn down and, besides, you are not going to be any more mature in 13 days than you are now.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com