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Keep Your Morals HighDR. WALLACE: My best friend and I have known each other for about seven years, and we're in the tenth grade. We both have boyfriends whom we love and adore. We confide in each other about almost everything. At times, we even tend to "over-share" some details about our relationships. Recently, my best friend lost her virginity to her boyfriend. I am still a virgin and I plan to keep it that way for a while. My boyfriend is also a virgin, and I know he would like to have sex, but he respects my decision and doesn't pressure me to do anything. The problem is that when my friend told me about her new experience, I developed, on some level, a type of competitive feeling. It's a type of feeling like, "Oh, everyone's doing it, so now I have to," like I have to "keep up" with my friend. And that's something I don't normally feel because I tend not to give in to peer pressure. But the other part of me knows I am not ready in the least. Do you have any advice on how to eliminate this sense of rivalry with my friend? - Nameless, Madison, Wis. NAMELESS: I've been writing this column for many years and I can tell you that premarital sex has caused more couples to end relationships rather than cause the relationship to grow stronger. I have thousands of letters in my files from females who lost their virginity and soon after, lost their boyfriends. Movies, television and even music lyrics like to make teens think that everyone is doing it. But surveys show that the majority of 16-year-old girls are still virgins. Keep your morals high! You will be glad that you did later on. ROMANTIC LOVE IS OFTEN BLIND DR.
NAMELESS: I remember one of my college professors saying that love is a state of being and cannot be defined. If you asked 100 people the same question, it's likely you would receive 100 different responses. One of the better definitions of love comes from the late author and lecturer, Dr. Haim Ginnott, who proclaimed, "Love is not just a feeling and passion. Love is a system of attitudes and a series of acts, which engender growth and enhance life for both lover and beloved. "Romantic love is often blind: It acknowledges the strength, but does not see the weakness in the beloved. In contrast, mature love accepts the strength without rejecting the weakness. In mature love, neither boy nor girl tries to exploit or possess the other. Each belongs to himself. "Such love gives the freedom to unfold and to become one's best self. Such love is also a commitment to stay in the relationship and attempt to work out difficulties even in times of anger and agony." To this I say, Amen! Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2012 CREATORS.COM
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