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Give Intelligent Young Women a Break

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DR. WALLACE: I'm angry that you encourage all girls, even the mentally, emotionally and physically mature young women who happen to be teenagers, not to get involved with older guys. You are dead wrong in your assumption that older guys and teenage girls shouldn't be engaged in a romantic relationship. I'm 17, a gifted student and emotionally wise beyond my years. Why should I get involved with a guy my age who has animal lust and thinks that he wants to be an automobile mechanic if and when he ever graduates from high school? Ugh!

I recently met a guy at a college lecture and we have been seeing one another for over a month. He has taken me to a new level of being in love. He is simply wonderful, mature, intelligent, compassionate and cares about our country's future. He is 26 years old. What 17-year-old boy that you know has these marvelous qualities? Guys my age are interested in beer, pot, sports and sex. The only knowledge of geography they possess is "Roman" hands and "Russian" fingers. Give us intelligent, mature young women a break. Instead of age difference, consider the maturity difference of couples. I'm not afraid to give my name. - Daphne, Boston, Mass.

DAPHNE: In life, there are exceptions to almost everything. I receive letters and emails from smokers who tell me that they have an 88-year-old grandfather who has been smoking two packs of cigarettes a day for the past 72 years and that he is extremely healthy. That is the exception. Medical experts tell us that smoking is a health hazard.

You may be the exception in dating an older man, but in the great majority of cases where teen girls see older guys, the teen winds up the loser.

Many men seek teen girls because they are unable to find women their own age who want to share a relationship with them. Many female teens feel flattered to have an older guy interested in them. But flattery often leads to a lot of problems!

'POT' USE IS BETTER THAN HEROIN

DR. WALLACE: I know that you are against teens experimenting with drugs. I feel the same way. But my girlfriend and I both enjoy smoking pot once or twice a week. We don't smoke tobacco cigarettes, and we don't engage in taking drugs. You are also anti-pot. What pot does is make the user mellow and it enhances all of the human senses. Everything tastes better and everything feels better while high on pot.

Please be more lenient on us recreational pot smokers. I'm a good student and so is my girlfriend. We have never been in trouble at school or in our community. Let us be honest. There is no way you can lump us together with cocaine and heroin addicts. Yet, you consider us all to be criminal drug abusers. - Steve, Santa Barbara, Calif.

STEVE: You are correct! There is a vast difference between someone who uses marijuana once or twice a week and a person who is addicted to cocaine and/or heroin and is constantly seeking funds to feed his or her habit. I'd much rather see young people smoke marijuana than engage in other illegal drugs. But I would be even happier if they didn't use marijuana at all!

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

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He is simply wonderful, mature, intelligent, compassionate and cares about our country's future. He is 26 years old. What 17-year-old boy that you know has these marvelous qualities? Guys my age are interested in beer, pot, sports and sex.
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Nice, Daphne. As it so happens, I have a 17 YO son who is nothing like your obnoxious description. You may be a gifted student, but you're not so "emotionally wise" as you think.

I have to wonder why a 26 YO with all those wonderful qualities has been cradle-robbing, rather than dating the many, many other bright young women closer to his own age?
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Posted by: hedgehog
Fri Feb 17, 2012 11:50 AM
LW1: You think you are wise beyond your years on all levels. You talk like a smart mouthed sassy little punk who wants to make her waves in the world and the tantrum comes when no one will listen to you.
Write back when you are 26, and tell us how much wisdom you gained in those years. Bet your story will be different.
Being 'wet behind the ears' did not become a phrase for no reason. And your letter makes you a candidate. For a 26 year old to be 'so interested' in an underage teen, there has to be something wrong there, too.
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Posted by: Joyce/MN
Fri Feb 17, 2012 9:47 PM
Did you tell this guy how old you are? If not, then he may have assume that you were a college student who was over 18. If you think that guys your own age are too immature, and that high school is for losers, you should've graduated early and gone straight to college.
If you think you're mature enough to be grown up, then you need to start taking the initiative. Otherwise, you're just a rebellious kid.
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Posted by: Tony
Sun Feb 19, 2012 7:42 AM
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