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Afraid to Commit at 50
Dear John: I am a 50-year-old single man who owns my own business. Recently, I started seeing a woman who lives nearby. I explained that I saw myself as a loner and in fact, had not had a relationship in the past 15 years. I also said that I felt …Read more.
Baby Delivery Drama
Dear John: My husband and I are having a baby next month. I'm looking forward to this blessed event, except for one thing: both my mother and my mother-in-law want to be in the delivery room with us.
We will be delivering in one of the hospital's …Read more.
Maintaining Love
Dear John: If you find someone that you're attracted to is it at all possible that you can create a love between you by just working at it? Or is it more a matter of finding that one-and-only right person who has just the right magic to make it all …Read more.
Woman in Love With Best Friend
Dear John: I'm a 40-year-old woman, and my best friend is a male. "Craig" and I have been friends for three years. Lately, I have been having feelings for Craig that are more than just friendship. Is this normal? He is a man I have trusted …Read more.
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Lovelorn Single Laments LossDear John: I am a 28-year-old male. I've recently had a breakup with my girlfriend of seven years. This has been the most painful experience I've ever had. I deeply love and care for "Linda," but she is now currently dating someone else. I know inside she still loves me, but she says, "I have nothing left to give to us now." What I do not understand is how Linda can go from expressing how much she cared for me, then 48 hours later, decide that it is over. I want to reconcile our relationship at sometime in the future. She was not only my love, but my best friend as well. I feel as if I have lost everything. Friends say, "There are others out there!" But Linda was everything I could have wanted. When the phone rings, my body quivers and I become nervous. I am a stubborn man and do not want to lose what I feel is the best relationship I'll ever have. I have recognized my past mistakes, and I want to do whatever I can to make things right. But how do I make her see that? — Hoping to Set Things Right in Tampa, Fla. Dear Hoping: The reason you cannot understand why she made such a change so quickly is because, in reality, the decision wasn't as sudden as it seems. Linda has been planning this change for some time. She most probably feels that she gave and gave, without getting what she needed in return. Maybe she asked for it, and you never saw fit to accommodate her; maybe she never knew how to ask. The decade of your 20s should be the time to explore and accommodate both your needs and decide whether or not you wish to accommodate the needs of those whom attract you.
You're not the first lover to think that there will never be another love like the love you lost. But that is not true. In time, you'll find another soul mate who will to be your heart's desire — and you will be a wiser lover for the love you shared in the past. Dear John: My husband's a great guy, but at times he just has to be right. I wish I could break him of this habit. — Open to Suggestions in Medford, Ore. Dear Open: One of the tricks to a lasting relationship is to know what to disagree about and what to just let pass. Part of the make up of men is to behave on occasion with a high degree of certainty. If you know it's an issue of consequence, then by all means disagree. But if not, give him a pass. It's not about his wanting to be the two-ton gorilla in the room; he just needs to be able to beat his chest every now and then. John Gray is the author of "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus." Visit his website, http://www.marsvenus.com, for advice on dating, marriage, parenting, romance and workplace issues. Or e-mail him at comments@marsvenus.com. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com. COPYRIGHT 2012 JOHN GRAY'S MARS VENUS ADVICE
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