Brother Ruins Relationships Dear John, My brother ruins all of my relationships. We are both in our 20S, and he is five years older. He thinks I make the wrong choices in the guys I date. I think that it's none of his business. What do you think? —Big Brother Blues in …Read more. Father-In-Law Visits too Often Dear John, My husband "Andy" and I live in the same town as his parents. My father-in-law comes over to visit every day. Sometimes twice a day! Andy doesn't have the heart to talk to his dad about this. In fact, I don't think it bothers …Read more. Partner Is to Easy-Going Dear John, I've been in a serious relationship for four years. I was first attracted to my partner for his easy-going nature. Whatever I wanted to do, he agreed to do it. Sounds wonderful, but now it really gets on my nerves! I'm tired of doing the …Read more. How Do I Get Over a Divorce? Dear John, I'm a 46 year-old professional male. I've been divorced for one year now. I have two beautiful girls who live nearby with their mother. We were married for 15 years. Prior to our divorce, I asked her, "Why do you want a divorce?…Read more.more articles
Friend Lost Husband in Tragic Accident
Dear John, My friend Susie recently lost her husband in a tragic accident. Since then, Susie has been chasing everyone else's husband, lying and causing fights. I know that Susie is in pain, but she talks as if she is actually trying to catch one of these guys, and she has most of them wrapped around her finger. How can I help her? —Worried, in Cincinnati, Ohio
Dear Worried, Strong relationships aren't going to crumble because of overt flirting. If these guys are looking for trouble, they'll find it, with or without Susie. At the same time, Susie has forgotten that friendships are built on trust, and right now her actions are not trustworthy. They are a cry for help.
Meet with her alone. Tell her that you love her, as do your other friends, and that everyone realizes that she is in a lot of pain, but her actions are jeopardizing friendships. Suggest that she consider grief counseling. Be prepared to give her the name of a local support group or counselor. The rest is up to Susie. If she is ready to move beyond her grief and anger, she now knows she has the love and support of her friends to do so
Dear John, I met this beautiful woman and everything was OK until I offered her a drink.
To make a long story short, she didn't call me the next day, or the next week. Finally, I called her. She's not interested! Do I have any chance of winning her back? —Frustrated, in Newport Beach, Calif.
Dear Frustrated, She gave you a message, loud and clear: she'd prefer to be around a guy who doesn't drink. Considering her past experience, this is understandable. Knowing this, the decision is now yours. If your feelings are deep enough for a lasting commitment, be the man she wants. Otherwise, you won't be attractive to her. Then again, if casual drinking is part of who you are, find someone who doesn't mind. Otherwise, you'll resent her for pushing you in that direction, and that wouldn't be fair to either of you.
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