Flirting with Infidelity Dear Annie: I am a 26-year-old married woman. I love my husband and would do anything for him, and I know he would do the same for me. The problem is, I contacted an old friend after learning his uncle had died. This guy was my first love. I only …Read more. Jane Likes Him Jealous Dear Annie: I am 74, and "Jane" is 56. We met online, where I said early on that I was not interested in dating because of the age disparity. I simply told her that I liked the expression on her face in the posted photos. She is beautiful. But …Read more. "Men Are Not Designed for Monogamy"? Dear Annie: I have been married for 40 years to a man who had a few affairs in the past that I recently found out about. We are both seeing counselors, privately and together. At this point in time, I am tired of dealing with this, and our marriage …Read more. Failing Kidneys, Failing Passion Dear Annie: I've been with my boyfriend for five years. We have a handsome 6-year-old boy. A year after I had my son, my boyfriend was diagnosed with kidney failure. At first, he was doing well, but then he had a rough patch and lost hope. During …Read more.more articles
Irresponsible Sister Has Worn Out Her Welcome as a Guest
Dear Annie: My sister, "Didi," has been living with my husband and me for several months. Didi pays a modest amount of rent based on her income — but we set it up before she started working more consistently. She now has a part-time job and still doesn't contribute anything more. If she were saving her money, I would understand, but she's spending it on clothes and expensive makeup. She rarely helps around the house with cleaning or cooking.
I realize she is lucky to have a job, but she refuses to pick up a second one. I told her I saw a "for hire" sign at a fast-food place close to home, but she won't apply. I should also point out that she doesn't drive, and I take her to work each day. On days when I have to drop her off early or pick her up late because of my own job, she gives me a bit of attitude. Frankly, I'm ready for her to move out, but I don't think she can afford it yet, and I don't want her asking me for money to help pay her rent.
The complicated part of all of this is that my husband and I want to have a baby, but Didi is living in what would be the baby's room. Nine months seems like a reasonable period of time for her to get her stuff together and move out. But if she truly cannot afford it, I don't want to be the one making her live on the streets.
I love Didi, but am beginning to feel she is taking advantage of me. How do I help her get her own place? — Love my Sis
Dear Sis: Didi is definitely taking advantage of your tolerance levels. Are there any other relatives who might take your sister off your hands? If not, set up a timeframe. Inform Didi that you are planning to get pregnant and once it happens, you will need her room for the baby and she will have to move out. That will give her at least nine months to find another place. Tell her you'll be happy to help her search for another part-time job, an inexpensive apartment and a roommate.
Dear Annie: I am a 21-year-old female virgin. Two years ago, I had my first and only "relationship," in which my boyfriend dumped me after a week when he realized I was not going to have sex with him. Since then, I have been afraid to seek out relationships because I'm scared of being pressured to move too fast.
I know it is ridiculous to judge all men based on a single experience. But society projects the idea that women are expected — even obligated — to give sex to their boyfriends. I want to avoid the risks of STDs and pregnancy, but I don't know whether I am strong enough to keep saying "no." Is it wrong of me to expect a relationship without sex? — Lonely, but Afraid
Dear Lonely: Of course not, but you are right that a lot of men expect a physical relationship with someone your age (although not after one week). There are plenty of guys who would be willing to get to know you and commit to a relationship before attempting to get you into bed. Keep looking. They are out there.
Dear Annie: I have another take on the letters about funerals where the mourners may not wish to view the remains.
Before my wife passed away in April, she made arrangements for her body to be donated to the University of Tennessee Department of Anatomy and Neurobiology. When she died, we notified them and they took her body to the school in Memphis. Their memorial service was impressive and comforting. These medical schools are always looking for such donations, and I have made arrangements for my body to be used the same way when the time comes. — Sevierville, Tenn.
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