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Don't Count on Molding Mr. Right
Dear Annie: I'm a 70-year-old woman, still attractive and athletic. I have been dating "Sam," age 74, for nearly three years. When we met online, I clearly stated that I wanted to get married in the near future and that I had three cats and wanted a man who loves animals.
Sam is a nice, educated man. He treats me well, and we do a lot of different things. However, he still talks with his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend regularly. He says his ex-girlfriend is lonely and has a sad life. I could deal with that, but his ex-wife was the "love of his life." He says they have a lot in common and she is fun to talk to. Occasionally, they see each other. I don't like it, and neither does her boyfriend.
Sam is a great guy in many ways, but I am having a hard time adjusting to this. He insists that his ex is in his past, but isn't talking to someone on the phone every other week considered a current relationship?
The other problem is that Sam is not nice to my cats. He treats them coldly, and this hurts me. Should I just ignore this? We do go to a lot of places and have fun, and we both love playing golf. — Sad in California
Dear Sad: You have unrealistic expectations about Sam. He enjoys your company, but he's not ready to settle down. He wants the freedom to stay in touch with his exes, he doesn't much care for cats, and he's not interested in marriage. There is nothing wrong with accepting Sam as he is and enjoying the fun times you have together. Otherwise, please stop trying to turn him into Mr. Right, and look for a man who better meets your requirements.
Dear Annie: I was hospitalized with pneumonia and then diagnosed with COPD and atrial fibrillation, for which I was put on daily meds. I am also diabetic. I am now home and taking breathing treatments and allergy shots, plus my normal heart and COPD meds. I find that I cannot tolerate strong smells: perfume, paint, fireplaces, scented candles, etc.
The problem is my husband, "Carl." He is a smoker. He had a heart attack several years ago, and we both quit at that time. I haven't had a cigarette since, but he started up again. He doesn't smoke in the house, but he cannot get it through his head that when he comes in after smoking, he still has a strong cigarette odor, and I frequently have severe coughing attacks, shortness of breath and chest pain. He apologizes, but won't quit.
My doctor has suggested several options to help Carl quit, but nothing has an effect. I know my future includes being on oxygen. I am 65, and these constant attacks are wearing me down. We've been married for 25 years, and I love Carl. I have a difficult time thinking that he's so selfish. Any suggestions? — He Just Doesn't Care
Dear Doesn't Care: We think Carl cares, but he's so addicted to tobacco that he's unable to contemplate quitting. First, ask Carl if you can go with him to speak to his doctor. Then consider an area of the house where Carl can change his clothes and/or shower before being around you. He also can try electronic cigarettes, which still pose a health risk, but his clothes won't reek as much. But if Carl refuses to protect you from his addiction, one of you may need to leave in order for you to maintain your health. Sorry.
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LW1 -
If he talked to his ex every other day, I would think more of it, but every other week... This is nothing but a friendship. I too, am still friends with three of my exes, see one of them occasionally, still work with the other two, and there is no hanky-panky going on.
The problem is not so much about what and who he has in his past, it is what and who he has in his future. I don't see you there. After three years, there should be talk of marriage if he was interested. He clearly isn't, any more than he is interested in your cats.
This is not going to change. You'll not be getting more from him than you presently are. Either you learn to enjoy his company as is, or you move on.
LW2 -
Your signature pretty much says it all. And Annies, sure he cares, but much less about her than about his stinky sticks. Addicted, schmaddicted, if he was able to quit once, he could do it again.
LW, the Annies are right about one thing - if he won't quit, then YOU have to. Sorry.
Comment: #1
Posted by: Lise Brouillette
Fri Apr 19, 2013 9:35 PM
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LW1: When it comes to meeting people online, both men and women do a bit of lying. I'm sorry to say that Sam has gotten the girl, he's decided that it's time to stop putting on a nice face for you and show the real him. If you love your cats, you don't want this guy moving in. I guarantee you that it won't be long before he starts complaining about them and looking for ways to get rid of them. Really, you shouldn't move in with him at all if he refers to another woman as 'the love of his life'. Being friends with your ex is good. Still being in love with them is another.
My advice is that if you are having fun with Sam, keep having fun. Go out. Do fun stuff with him. But if you're looking to get married again, this probably isn't the guy. Not unless you want to be married to a man who is still lamenting over his ex. Perhaps you should talk to Sam about opening up your relationship. That way you can enjoy spending time together while you continue searching for the love of YOUR life.
LW2: I am not a smoker, but I have been hearing a lot of good things about electronic cigarettes. If he doesn't use them, then I'm not sure what you can do. Annie's suggestion that he clean up somewhere before approaching you is nice, but not very realistic. Smoke hangs around on your skin, on your breath and in your hair. Is he going to take a shower and brush his teeth every time he smokes? Leaving may be the only option to save her health, but at 65 and after 25 years of marriage, it is going to be rough. She may need to talk to a counselor or a doctor to help her weigh her options. Chances are, she won't be able to change his habits.
Comment: #2
Posted by: Datura
Fri Apr 19, 2013 10:54 PM
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* * * * PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT * * * *
LW3 refers to the first letter on 8 February 2013.
Comment: #3
Posted by: Miss Pasko
Fri Apr 19, 2013 11:03 PM
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LW2: Annie's remarks were right on target. I'm a smoker, and I'm heavily addicted to cigarettes. I have tried everything out there to quit: Chantix, the patch, the gum, hypnosis, acupuncture, cold turkey, cutting back, switching brands, etc. etc.! It's terrible! But here's the truth: if you're addicted to alcohol or drugs, here's help...but if you're addicted to nicotine (and any other additives in the cigarettes), you're "an example". I can handle the electronic cigarettes (I use this in the car for our 12-hr. drive every year for vacation!). We know you don't like us smoking. Neither do we. We're doing our best. Give us a break.
Comment: #4
Posted by: Jan Merzlak
Sat Apr 20, 2013 12:33 AM
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LW1--I don't know what kind of stamina your 74 year old boyfriend has but I can assure you that his chit-chatting with his ex-wife every other week doesn't translate to a salacious affair or hot steamy sex. It's irrelevant that she was the "love of his life" because they're divorced and she has a boyfriend of her own. Did it occur to you that they're simply friends? After a lifetime together and many things in common, what else would you call what they have besides friendship? When people get to your age sweetie, it's important to hang onto the friends one has because new friends are not regularly forthcoming and an interloper from an Internet dating site cannot hope to establish in three years what this man has established over a lifetime. It's colloquially called "baggage" and your chances of finding a partner without any is next to nil. Look, you're unhappy with your boyfriend's relationships with the other women in his life and you dislike how he treats your cats. What else do you need to know? My advice is to stop trying for force a square peg into a round hole get back on-line and cast your line again.
LW2--Look hon, it's not that your husband 'Carl' doesn't care or is willfully being selfish. The man is an addict and his drug is smoking. Cigarettes are a coping mechanism for him and with the myriad of health issues you described in your letter, it seems as though he could use some coping mechanisms. The dilemma is to for him to find a way to cope that doesn't endanger your health. It's time you spoke frankly with Carl. Tell him that the residual smoke is going to kill you. Period. Tell him point blank that he needs to quit or you need to move out. It's really that simple.
Comment: #5
Posted by: Chris
Sat Apr 20, 2013 4:22 AM
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LW-1 You're a stupid ass hat. Why would you continue seeing a jerk like that. If he is cold to your cats and it "hurts" you and you let this relationship continue you are a dumb as a box of rocks. Kick him to the curb and run. Enjoy your life with the cats, it is less drama.
Comment: #6
Posted by: j1p
Sat Apr 20, 2013 4:52 AM
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LW-2 I agree with Chris - tell him either he stops, moves out or you die. simple as that.
Comment: #7
Posted by: j1p
Sat Apr 20, 2013 4:55 AM
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LW1 - The LW already knows that Sam isn't interested in the relationship going in the same direction that she does. She either needs to accept Sam and her relationship with him the way it is, or move on if she wants to find someone more interested in commitment. It's as simple as that. It's unlikely that a young man would be willing to be molded into someone else's version of the future, and impossible for that to happen with someone Sam's age.
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LW2 - I'm afraid I have to basically agree with the Annies on this one. As a former smoker, I know how hard it is to quit, but it can be done with the right motivation. The LW needs to sit down with Carl and make the facts of life very clear to him -- either he quits, switches to the electronic cigarettes, or she will leave. Make him understand that if he continues to smoke it will ultimately result in her serious illness of death. If he still refuses to quit, then she should leave. The verdict isn't in yet on the electronic cigarettes, but at least there wouldn't be an odor of smoke on his clothes after he uses them.
Comment: #8
Posted by: Kitty
Sat Apr 20, 2013 5:40 AM
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LW1: Leave this relationship. Three years in and nothing of what you want then its waayyy past time to leave! You will not get what you want. And I tell this to young ladies so maybe an old one needs to hear it too. YOu don't need man to be happy in life. If you are not happy in the relationship leave.
Comment: #9
Posted by: Kath
Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:01 AM
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Re: Jan Merzlak, you said, "We know you don't like us smoking. Neither do we. We're doing our best. Give us a break."
You stupid, selfish bitch. You are just like every other inconsiderate smoker who thinks that your habit is merely offensive to others. Give YOU a break? Please. Because your smoking habit has dulled or perhaps eliminated your sense of smell, you don't realize how much you stink and how much it affects others. Giving you "a break" could mean the difference between life and death for someone else. If you want to smoke yourself to death, please do so. But you better make damn well sure that no one is breathing in your toxic fumes, and yes, that includes when you're smoking outside (secondhand smoke doesn't cease to be cancerous in the open air) and being in the company of others after you're done with your cancer stick.
My grandmother died of lung cancer caused by her husband's secondhand smoke. My other grandmother has COPD and cannot tolerate smoke. And my mother has severe asthma and can't even go to the grocery store. Why? Because of all you idiot smokers huddling around the door and creating your own little toxic haze.
Comment: #10
Posted by: Siege
Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:43 AM
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LW2:
Have you got a large amount of life insurance? Perhaps it is time to review the beneficiary(ies).
Comment: #11
Posted by: Miss Pasko
Sat Apr 20, 2013 6:58 AM
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@ Siege
Oh please! Get off your high horse. As much as you refuse to believe it, smokers are not the reason the world has gone to hell in a hand basket. I hope it made you feel better to lash out so viciously at another person whom had nothing whatsoever to do with the deaths of your family members. Grow up!
Comment: #12
Posted by: Chris
Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:14 AM
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Love me, love my cat. Not an animal lover? Don't let the door hit you in the butt on your way out.
Comment: #13
Posted by: Khlovia
Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:26 AM
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LW2 - Forget about going with Carl to his doctor to get remedies for quitting smoking. Have Carl go with YOU to YOUR doctor and let your doctor law down the law to Carl how he's killing you.
Comment: #14
Posted by: Rozelle
Sat Apr 20, 2013 7:35 AM
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My parents are in their sixties and been divorced for 20 something years. They live in a small town, so they go to the same church, sing in the same choir, go to the same events and activities (often together) and have many of the same friends. My dad has a fiance and my mom is single by choice. They also share two living kids and one dead one, and eventually are going to share grandchildren. Mom helps dad out with the costs of some of his meds and rides to places and dad fixes mom's car and does handy work around her house. They talk at least a couple times a week. They're friends. They've been friends for almost 40 years. They just don't make a good couple. At all. They are not getting back together, end of story. My guess is that LW 1's guy is much the same as my folks. You don't just stop being friends with people who've known you almost your whole life because your girlfriend doesn't like it. My guess is that if boyfriend and ex-wife had a bad relationship the LW would be writing in complaining that it's hard for grandkid's birthdays and weddings because ex-wife of how awkward it is. If you are unhappy with how things stand with your guy, find a new one. I have to say though (as someone who isn't fond of cats either) if the worst you can say is that he doesn't like your cats (isn't mean to them, just doesn't like them) and talks every couple of weeks to someone he's known forever then I think you have it pretty good.
Also, thanks, Chris, your response to Siege was awesome. And Jan is right: there's not a lot of real help out there for smokers.
Comment: #15
Posted by: wyn667
Sat Apr 20, 2013 8:20 AM
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Re: Chris
Act like a man, you twit!!
Comment: #16
Posted by: clemma
Sat Apr 20, 2013 9:20 AM
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Troll Alert! There are trolls trying to get a fight started! Don't give into it!
Comment: #17
Posted by: Chelle
Sat Apr 20, 2013 9:30 AM
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LW1 - Either Sam didn't read your online profile and only saw what he liked in your photo or he did read it and didn't care that you two have different desires because he liked what he saw in your photo. In my opinion, Sam still loves his ex-wife and is still pining for her but is with you for companionship and sex. I bet you any amount of money if his ex-wife left her boyfriend and asked Sam to get back together, he'd dump you in a nano second. If what you're looking for is marriage and a cat lover, Sam isn't for you. Move on.
LW2 - I would tell Carl he either has to quit, try electronic cigarettes or he has to move out. There are married couples who live apart because that's what works for them. Good luck.
Comment: #18
Posted by: Michelle
Sat Apr 20, 2013 9:33 AM
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LW 1 At age 70 there are a lot more females than males. Especially males that are intelligent and nice. That is way his exes still spend time with him. They enjoy what they get from him. I suggest you do the same. Enjoy what you get from him and date other men if you can find any as good as him. It doesn't sound like he would mind if you look around. From what I read in advice columns it doesn't sound like there are a lot of available, good men out there at any age.
It sounds like he is just ignoring your cat. That's okay, the cat is probably ignoring him too. If he was abusing your cat I'd tell you to leave him.
Comment: #19
Posted by: locake
Sat Apr 20, 2013 10:05 AM
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LW2 - There are other options that can help reduce the smoke on your husband when he returns. Remember smoking jackets? That was their exact purpose. You put on the jacket when you smoke and take it off before you return to the house. He should be willing to use mouthwash and wash his hands every time he re-enters the house after smoking.
Too many people see things in black vs. white, all or nothing. You don't have to literally "throw the baby out with the bathwater." Smoking is an addiction that he SHOULD try to quit, no question. Yet, sometimes, it just doesn't happen that way and you can mitigate the situation with simple solutions without getting a divorce. Her health is a serious issue that he needs to acknowledge and I agree, he should also meet with her doctor in order to understand how his behavior is making things worse. Maybe that will be the push he need to quit.
Comment: #20
Posted by: Julie
Sat Apr 20, 2013 11:18 AM
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LW2 - There are other options that can help reduce the smoke on your husband when he returns. Remember smoking jackets? That was their exact purpose. You put on the jacket when you smoke and take it off before you return to the house. He should be willing to use mouthwash and wash his hands every time he re-enters the house after smoking.
Too many people see things in black vs. white, all or nothing. You don't have to literally "throw the baby out with the bathwater." Smoking is an addiction that he SHOULD try to quit, no question. Yet, sometimes, it just doesn't happen that way and you can mitigate the situation with simple solutions without getting a divorce. Her health is a serious issue that he needs to acknowledge and I agree, he should also meet with her doctor in order to understand how his behavior is making things worse. Maybe that will be the push he need to quit.
Comment: #21
Posted by: Julie
Sat Apr 20, 2013 11:19 AM
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LW2 - There are other options that can help reduce the smoke on your husband when he returns. Remember smoking jackets? That was their exact purpose. You put on the jacket when you smoke and take it off before you return to the house. He should be willing to use mouthwash and wash his hands every time he re-enters the house after smoking.
Too many people see things in black vs. white, all or nothing. You don't have to literally "throw the baby out with the bathwater." Smoking is an addiction that he SHOULD try to quit, no question. Yet, sometimes, it just doesn't happen that way and you can mitigate the situation with simple solutions without getting a divorce. Her health is a serious issue that he needs to acknowledge and I agree, he should also meet with her doctor in order to understand how his behavior is making things worse. Maybe that will be the push he need to quit.
Comment: #22
Posted by: Julie
Sat Apr 20, 2013 11:19 AM
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sorry for the multiple posts.
Comment: #23
Posted by: Julie
Sat Apr 20, 2013 11:20 AM
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Like "Sam," I would say that I love animals, but that doesn't mean I love every animal. A friend of mine has a mean tempered dog I won't go near. I usually like cats, but some cats are skittish or standoffish, or scratch or bite... I tend not to like them. And sometimes I'll like a cat or dog fine, but be a bit put off by the way the owner fawns over it, so I won't interact much with it when the owner is around. Point bring, LW's boyfriend wasn't necessarily lying when he said he liked animals. His ideal of a nice animal to be around may be a good hunting dog.
And no, talking on the phone every other week (which comes down to twice a month) is not considered the same as still being in a relationship.... and least not by anyone normal.
Still, if you're unhappy with Sam, why stay with him? There are other guys out there.
Comment: #24
Posted by: Nowhereman
Sat Apr 20, 2013 12:43 PM
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Re: Jan Merzlak
I used to smoke two packs a day. Not only was I addicted, but I also genuinely LIKED the sensation of smoking. To make matters worse, I have asthma, which means that the abrupt withdrawal if I tried to quit cold turkey induced an asthma attack. Changing brand didn't work - all it did was ruin the experience without removing the craving. And slowing down gradually didn't work either - all I could think of all day was the next cigarette, and this is no way to live.
But there is more to it than physical dependance - stress plays a major role. There are also different reasons why people smoke. In order to identify your areas of weakness, you have to determine what yours are. Do you smoke, like I did, because you enjoy the taste of tobacco? Did it start as stress-reliever? Do you smoke to keep your hands busy? Depending on the reason, you may have to find a replacement for the emotional function you are using cigarettes for. In order to address all the challenges I was facing, this is the course of action I devised.
1. Get some kind of artificial nicotine delivery system (gum, patch, whatever) so that you can control the rate of withdrawal from the actual addictive substance.
2. Calculate how many cigarettes you smoke in the course of a day.
3. Choose a stress-free date, reasonably close time-wise - a few weeks. Stress-free means not one where you have your finals at university, and not one filled with temptations like a family party with lots of alcohol and smokers.
4. Buy your favourite brand in sufficient quantity to last until that date.
5. Smoke every cigarette until the end and enjoy it. Do keep track to make sure you're not over-smoking and adjust if necessary.
6. Once they're gone and D-Day has come, don't buy any more and don't accept any more. Time for the artificial nicotine delivery system, which you use on a gradually decreasing basis.
7. Install a reward system that is visible to the naked eye. I used to buy one little science-fiction figurine every week, which I lined up in front of the books on my library shelving. But you can do something else, like depositing the money saved in a special account. I do know it was a great satisfaction to see the collection grow by the week.
That was 27 years ago. I do admit that I'm still tempted when I see someone smoking my favourite brand. That is the side-effect for the specific reason why *I* was smoking. But the craving in itself is long gone. It worked.
Regarding the LW, I realise that some people become more addicted than others, different metabolisms will respond differently to physical dependance. But do keep in mind that the man has stopped before. It's not like he's incapable. Miss Pasko might be on to something.
Comment: #25
Posted by: Lise Brouillette
Sat Apr 20, 2013 1:14 PM
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Further to LW2 -
It is possible that Carl has decided that he has done enough as it is to accommodate you, and that any more demands on your part is an attempt at controlling him. Take him with you to your next doctor's appointment. If he still won't budge even after the physician has explained to him that you're not making this up... Time to pack your bags and change your life insurance policy.
Comment: #26
Posted by: Lise Brouillette
Sat Apr 20, 2013 1:18 PM
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LW1: You may have been been clear and upfront about what you wanted in your ad, but just like with job applicants, respondents often reply even if they don't meet every qualification. Why? They figure as long as there's a chance that you'll like them enough to overlook the standardsyou set, they should take the chance, because you'll let them know if their other attributes don't make up for their deficiencies.
You haven't done that, for 3 years now. My guess is that you looked the other way, because you figured that YOUR positive attributes were enough to persuade him to commit and to want to be nice to your cats.
It's up to YOU to decide whether Sam as he is is enough for you, whether you'd be comfortable with BOTH of you seeing other people (you will need to do this if you hope to find a husband) or breaking it off with him to concentrate on finding a husband without any distraction.
Comment: #27
Posted by: hedgehog
Sat Apr 20, 2013 1:41 PM
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We know you don't like us smoking. Neither do we. We're doing our best. Give us a break.
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Except, Jan Merzlak, the "break" that she gives her husband is very likely to shorten her own life. It's not a question that she "doesn't like" smoking. It's that her body cannot tolerate the secondhand smoke, physiologically. That's what set Siege off.
If your addiction is literally killing the person you vowed to "love, honor and cherish", then it's on you to protect that person, by moving out, if necessary.
LW DOES need to understand that this is an addiction and not a question of "selfishness" -- but Carl is indeed being selfish if he refuses to take steps to keep his wife safe, whether that's quitting or moving out.
Comment: #28
Posted by: hedgehog
Sat Apr 20, 2013 1:50 PM
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LW1: Lighten up and enjoy Sam for who he is. There't nothing wrong with him continuing to maintain a friendship with his ex-wife. The ex-girlfriend is pathetic, but she is no threat to your relationship. Everyone has baggage and nobody is perfect. It seems to me that you have a good relationship with a few flaws, mostly his dislike for your cats. Marriage is not going to make your life magically better. Count your blessings.
LW2: Your husband needs to quit smoking for his own health and yours. It can be done and there are many techniques that can help. I don't have any brilliant suggestions as to how to get through to him, however. He clearly doesn't want to change.
Comment: #29
Posted by: PuaHone
Sat Apr 20, 2013 1:57 PM
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Re: Lise Brouillette: I totally understand, Lise. I too, am friends with my former husband of 20+ years. We talk a couple of times a week and my new husband is fine with that.
Comment: #30
Posted by: Cheryl
Sat Apr 20, 2013 2:34 PM
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Re LW#1------Let's totally put aside the relationships with his ex-wife and ex-girlfriend. I can't really tell whether this is a real problem or not. (The talking only once every two weeks says no to me, but on the other hand, telling your new long-term girlfriend that your ex-wife was the 'love of your life' kind of says yes. (I mean, even if it's true, what a stupid thing to say to your GF under the guise of 'honesty'!!!!!
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On the other hand, you say you mentioned in your original ad that you had three cats and wanted a man who 'loved animals', and you say he doesn't. You didn't say you wanted someone who 'tolerated' them or was 'cold to them', even if he's NOT kicking them every time he walks by.
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Now, as others have stated, he MAY have valid reasons-------------maybe you mush over them too much, place them above him in decisions, etc. Maybe they are stand-offish to him, or slap him, fight constantly with each other, mess somewhere other than the litter box. Doesn't really matter, bottom line is you love them, he is cold to them. And it shouldn't have taken him three years to TELL you he wasn't warming to them, nor should it have taken three years for you to figure it out. (He may have thought he would love them and found he couldn't, or he may have been lying the whole time.)
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And OOPS------almost forgot the other important thing. You want to get married "in the near future". He's had three years now to make up his mind. Has he asked you? You don't say he has.
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So, now that you have figured that out, what's keeping you with him? By your own words, he isn't what you wanted. Even if he had no exes in the picture, the lack of a proposal, and lack of warmth to the cats should be enough, since you wanted someone who DID love them, and who wanted marriage. Not any right or wrong here, you are just mismatched-------------and the more time you put in trying to change him, and failing, the more time you are wasting on him instead of trying to find someone who does fit your stated qualifications (unless you want to give up those qualifications and 'settle'. Do you?
Comment: #31
Posted by: jennylee
Sat Apr 20, 2013 2:39 PM
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Lw2 - I'd like to know what evidence the annies have that e-cigs pose any health risk at all. I dont think theyve been around long enough to make that statement. They are readily available without nicotine.
Re: Siege
Wow, I am impressed! Based on your statement I am assuming you use 100% green energy and do not drive a gas-powered car, use a fireplace, eat meat or use a gas-powered mower, all of which contribute to air pollution which can cause cancer and myriad other health issues.
Comment: #32
Posted by: Zoe
Sat Apr 20, 2013 5:27 PM
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@ Zoe Re: #32
I love you!
Comment: #33
Posted by: Chris
Sun Apr 21, 2013 9:11 AM
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LW1: You're 70 - why the heck do you want to get married? Have fun and enjoy life while you can. Also evolve a little before you die.
Comment: #34
Posted by: Diana
Wed Apr 24, 2013 7:22 PM
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Re: Siege
I'm sure you have no vices and do everything in life perfect...I'll bet you even fart rainbows. You completely missed my point, I guess because you were distracted after being nailed to that cross. I try to be a courteous smoker, I try to keep my smoking away from people, I have tried & tried to quit, but I haven't been able to yet. Like I said, it's a terrible addiction. And maybe if people treated it that way, instead of demonizing smokers like you do, maybe there would be more help out there for people to quit. And you're calling ME the "stupid, selfish bitch"? Try looking in the mirror, sweetheart. Peace.
Comment: #35
Posted by: Jan Merzlak
Fri May 10, 2013 6:18 PM
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