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This Story Could Save a Woman's Life

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For a split second, Helen Yee thought the guy who opened the passenger door of her car and slid in next to her was a neighbor.

Then she saw his gun.

The story of what happened next should be shared with every girl and woman you know. It might just save their lives.

Yee is co-founder of the American Institute of Alternative Medicine in Columbus, Ohio. She is 52 and, at 4 feet 11 inches, petite, but she's strong from decades as a martial arts expert. Her training made all the difference when the armed man slid into the car seat next to her.

"It's not all about kicking and punching," Yee told me in a phone interview Tuesday. "It's about using your head."

On Monday, Yee pulled into her driveway about 9:45 p.m., after rehearsing with the all-female band Wednesday Wine. She turned off her car, pulled the key from the ignition and clicked on the remote, opening all the doors so that she could retrieve her bass guitar from the back seat.

That's when the young man slid in next to her. He wore a hoodie pulled over his head and a bandana tied across his face.

"All I could see were his eyes and his gun," she said. "I had that sunken feeling."

"I need you to drive," he said.

"What?" she said.

"I just need you to drive," he repeated.

Yee looked at the gun and said, "OK," but she continued to hold the key in her hand and refused to panic.

"I knew I was not going anywhere with this guy," she said. "I knew from my martial arts training you never do that."

Yee also knew she had to distract him. She turned to him and said, "Hey! I know you!"

He recoiled. "You don't know me."

"Yeah, I do," she said. "You're Darren's friend."

She made this up. She didn't recognize him, nor did she know anyone named Darren. But she caught the guy off guard, which gave her precious seconds to figure out what to do next.

Yee pretended to struggle to put the key in the ignition as her left hand reached for the door. She pushed it open and darted out, running and screaming, "Help! Help!"

She never looked back. "I didn't give myself a chance to see if he was following me," she said. "I figured, if he was going to shoot me, he was going to shoot me.

I was going to run and make as much noise as I could."

A neighbor of Yee's, firefighter Jim Amick, was already on the phone to police when she bolted out of her car. He was suspicious after looking out the window and watching a car park too far from the curb and its driver jogging toward Yee's driveway.

Police confirmed that Amick placed his call at 9:52 p.m.

"At first, I think they didn't know whether to take me seriously," Amick said. "I'm describing this suspicious character, and then all of a sudden, I'm saying, 'Now there's a woman running down the street, screaming for help.' That they took seriously."

Yee banged on one neighbor's door. No answer. She continued to run and scream, banging on doors until she slid under an SUV parked in a neighbor's driveway. She waited 20 seconds without moving. When she didn't see her attacker's feet, she pulled out her cellphone and started speed dialing. She reached her business partner and asked her to call 911.

Police cars were already on their way because of Amick's call. They blocked off the street and surrounded the gunman's car. When he returned to it, sans hoodie and gun, they arrested him. He is a suspect in several other robberies, as well.

Within hours, news of Yee's escape, covered by local TV stations, started popping up on Facebook.

I asked Yee what advice she'd give other women in a similar situation who don't have self-defense training. She rattled off the list:

—Stay calm. Your attacker wants you to panic.

—Never agree to go with him to a remote location.

—Don't hesitate to lie. Telling the robber he looked familiar bought Yee crucial seconds.

—Always keep your cellphone on your body, not in your purse.

—Make as much noise as possible. If your car remote has a panic button, use it. Yee said she wishes she had remembered to do this.

—Be aware of your surroundings, always.

Finally, here's advice for all of us, all the time: Know your neighbors, and be willing to call 911 if you see something suspicious.

"I am so grateful that Jim picked up that phone," Yee said. "If I had been out there all alone, I don't know what I would have done."

We all can be grateful she never had to find out.

Connie Schultz is a Pulitzer Prize-winning columnist and an essayist for Parade magazine. She is the author of two books, including "...and His Lovely Wife," which chronicled the successful race of her husband, Sherrod Brown, for the U.S. Senate. To find out more about Connie Schultz (con.schultz@yahoo.com) and read her past columns, please visit the Creators Syndicate Web page at www.creators.com.

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Another wonderful example of the fierce American spirit that formed this Country into a prosperous nation of independent people without nanny government interference. People helping people one person at a time.
Comment: #1
Posted by: David Henricks
Thu Mar 14, 2013 6:33 AM
Thank you for sharing Helen's story with the world. She is one of the most amazing women I know and I am proud to call her a friend and bandmate! Agree with David Henricks' comment... this is a shining example of how we are here to help others. So thankful that Mr. Amick was watching out and that Helen was able to keep her head in a crisis!
Comment: #2
Posted by: Jeni Bynes
Thu Mar 14, 2013 8:15 AM
Thank you for posting Helen's story. I am a member of her band Wednesday Wine, and have been astounded by the number of people this story has resonated with. Over the past two days, hundreds of women have contacted us, thankful for her safety and inspired by her bravery. As an all girl rock band, we feel humbled and honored to have the opportunity to help spread this important message of safety and personal empowerment to others, and so blessed our dear, sweet Helen is safe.
P.S. I have of course followed all the media coverage, and can say unequivocally, your writing is superb. You found the heart of the story and the highlighted lesson to be learned. Thank you Connie. You are The Best.
Comment: #3
Posted by: Kelley Bell
Thu Mar 14, 2013 8:30 AM
An amazing story I'm so glad you shared. You too are saving lives. As I like to say, when Dames bond, Dames thrive! Thank you Connie for great journalism - using your heart and mind. Mary B.
Comment: #4
Posted by: Mary B. Relotto
Thu Mar 14, 2013 9:13 AM
I am so thankful that Helen made it out of this situation alive and well, and that she is sharing her fabulous tips for escape! Once again, a near-tragedy is a blessing to us all. Great job, Helen and Jim!
Comment: #5
Posted by: Trish Buchanan
Thu Mar 14, 2013 10:10 AM
I am so happy Helen got through this OK!! She is a friend who I really admire, she is in a great band (Wednesday Wine)! Her advise is really great, as someone who survived an attack I can appreciate it!! One thing I do whenever I get in my car the first thing I do is lock all the doors. Also when I arrive someplace I try to look around before I unlock my doors. I also am cautious of being in a place where I will be at risk. Something I learned because of my attack which took place in a parking lot with poor lighting and not highly visible!!
Comment: #6
Posted by: Pamela Reed
Thu Mar 14, 2013 12:12 PM
I am so thankful that my friend, Helen, escaped unharmed! I have learned as well that you never let someone take you to a secondary location because your chances of survival lower tremendously.
And a big thank you to her neighbor, Jim, who thought enough to call the police when he saw someone that didn't fit in their neighborhood. Another example of a great community in Columbus, Ohio with neighbors who have each others backs.
Comment: #7
Posted by: Michele Rapp
Thu Mar 14, 2013 2:57 PM
I have always greatly admired Helen Yee. I met her through the National Women's Martial Arts Federation years ago, and have enjoyed working with and learning from her. She is one of the kindest and most generous people I know. I'm so grateful that you're okay, Helen. And what a powerful example you set for how to deal with an incredibly frightening situation. Thank you for all your gifts to the world.
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Posted by: janet aalfs
Fri Mar 15, 2013 11:59 AM
I have always greatly admired Helen Yee. I met her through the National Women's Martial Arts Federation years ago, and have enjoyed working with and learning from her. She is one of the kindest and most generous people I know. I'm so grateful that you're okay, Helen. And what a powerful example you set for how to deal with an incredibly frightening situation. Thank you for all your gifts to the world.
Comment: #9
Posted by: janet aalfs
Fri Mar 15, 2013 12:09 PM
I am so glad to hear that Helen's martial arts training helped her stay calm. I'm glad she's okay!
Comment: #10
Posted by: Restita DeJesus
Fri Mar 15, 2013 5:31 PM
I experienced a horrific attack mid day in the stairwell of a bustling busy parking garage in downtown Tampa. I was beaten and sexullay assaulted BUT I KEPT FIGHTING even through threats of being killed. I knew I had to fight to save my own life. Luckily, after a very long 5 minutes or so, someone heard my screaming (which I did continuously and loudly) and my attacker ran off. I agree with every point above. You must use your head and think about how you can fight and flee; make a lot of noise - my screams finally brough help; always, always be aware of your suroundings - who would have thought someone would grab you and drag you into a stairwell at 11:30 AM with people going to and from so day or night it doesn't matter; keep your keys for a weapon and your cellphone to dial 911 OUT not tucked in your purse. I know there are many women that have suffered these horrors. I thank God for saving my life so I can help other women be more aware!
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Posted by: Buffa
Mon Mar 18, 2013 6:34 AM
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