Sir;... Man, you are goofy... They ought to make a law that guys like you can have sex with a girl, but then they would have to make a law that stupid girls have to put out... Let me explain the facts of life to you, Son... Marriage is a form of relationship... Lots of newlyweds make a lot of rules and promises going in, above and beyond their oaths... A lot of people have a lot of preconceptions moving in to a relationship, about what the form is, and what it all means... But let me explain the rules, because they are universal... The rule is: whatever people work out... Everyone has to sacrifice for their relationships, and everyone has to make accomodations... You get old, and find a bottle of viagra... What in the hell is that to her??? You still have to make a deal... You might, God forbid, actually have to listen to and respect, and love, and make love to your wife... You think the form should carry you... The form of your relationship is meaningless if the relationship is garbage... So don't talk nonsense... Think with your top end instead of the bottom... I may not have the best relationship on the planet with my wife, but I have no doubt that she is my equal, and if I expect her to go to bed with me, I better give her a damned good reason to... I can imagine showing her a rule book saying she has to go to bed with me, just because, and ending up with my unit looking like some pressed flower in an old Bible... Get real man... Thanks...Sweeney

What about the men that won't ablige their women?? My husband and I have been married less then a year, and he's always "too tired" or "not right now honey." So, I'm lucky that I get sex once a week. Sometimes, it's longer then that. Why can't they give us want we want, when we want it, even though they're not in "the mood"?? I have never turned him down, because I'm afraid it'll be awhile before I get it.

Re: S. Epling; Ma'am, send goofus your e-mail address... I don't know how you look, but a feedbag ought to improve his appearance.. Try sticking a picture of some one you care for on the front side, but don't call the picture by name... Or he will be bringing you down saying, No; its me, Dennis, the guy with more testosterone than brains...Thanks...Sweeney

Hi, If my life and that of some of my friends is any indicator, I would say that you should have written your piece to both men and women. My husband wishes the "problem of sex" would just go away. I don't know if Ihave ever refused my husband in 30 years of marriage. I know I initiated over 90% of the time! Now I am in menopause and believe me, it takes the right hormones to want to initiate. I have asked him to step up and initiate. Nothing. I mean nothing in a year!!!!! Yes, we have been in counseling. Nothing. I would love to negotiate with a man who wants sex "all the time." I can't even relate to that. I am still attractive, by the way.

Wow. What a load of sexist, misogynistic rubbish. Lots of couples, gay and str8, have this problem at one time or another. Counseling can help reconcile the differences or just even honest discussion. But no one should be pressured to give in at every demand. If one partner's sexual appetite is almost nil, often medical examination can determine the cause and offer some treatment, but trying to lay some sort of "moral" groundwork for why one person should be dominated by another is reprehensible.
And one look at the picture of the guy who wrote this column pretty much explains where he's coming from in terms of having his demands met, lol.

Again, old man. you need some wack in the face of a reality check.

Re: James A, Sweeney. I'm really tired of stumbling across your left-wing nonsense every time I go to read a columnists on this site. You ramble on and on and never seem to have anything worthwhile to say (awhile back, you suggested that the US scrap its entire Constitution, when we're not following the one we've got now.) Why do you read conservative columnists if their opinions irritate you so much? As for the rest of you, put a sock in it, because Prager is right. No wonder you've got miserable marriages...because clearly you don't understand that sex is part of God's union and that husbands and wives have a certain duty to one another.

Re: Matt;...Sorry to offend you Matt...At least I am not offended, alone...But no one is wiping their shoes off on me, so I sympathize... And BTW; I know where the terms Left and Right come from; and they do not apply to me... Left behind does apply to you however... I'd sure like to be a cockroach on the wall when you tell your wife it is God's will... Just to see if she is made of vinyl... Thanks... And trash the constitution... We can do better, and I do mean we...I trust even you more than the gangsters in D.C....Thanks again... and best.... Sweeney

the best reply to this article is here: http://www.alternet.org/sex/118731/radio_host_calls_sex_a_%26quot%3Bwife%27s_selfless_duty%26quot%3B%3A_what_century_is_this_again/?page=entire

Basically, the point lucidly made is that Dennis should leave gender out of it. The responsibility for sex in a relationship applies to men and women. Framing the topic this way is simply sexist.

"In the rest of life, not just in marital sex, it is almost always a poor idea to allow feelings or mood to determine one's behavior."
This applies to men, also. It is a poor idea for man to jump on his wife, or any woman, just because his feelings or mood determine his behavior.
He should use his hands more often.

Sir, you are a fool. What rubbish!! Have you considered that your wife may be telling you she's not "in the mood" because you lack the necessary skills? No one should be coerced in to having sex if they do not wish to engage in it.

To Matt (comment #5)
Matt get real. Prager is a quack, a fool. And you, by your subscription, are the same. Can't you see that the majority of people posting comments do not agree with Prager, and therefore, you? It's just nonsense.