I don't always agree with you, but I most certainly do today. The current vogue for peccadillo-followed-by-public-self-flagellation-followed-by- blow-by-blow-description-of-the-crime, is pretty appalling. Likewise, the mandatory standing-of-the-spouse-next-to-the-perp-during-the-confession. But regrettably, we do not live in an age where personal dignity is much valued, while public exposure -- of any sort -- is, so I suppose it's unavoidable, a sort of Jerry Springer show for celebs. One last appearance before the cameras, one last 15 minutes of fame, regardless of the injury to one's dignity, regardless of the cost to anyone else.

Sandra Tsing Loh's current position is that men are wimps who selfishly refuse to give their wives the sexual ecstasy they need and deserve.

Okay, fair enough. Except… isn't this the same Sandra Tsing Loh who gave a rave review to Joan Sewell's “I'd Rather Eat Chocolate”?

http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200703/loh-libido

Sandra LOVED that book, which was all about a wife who hated sex, and the “compromise” solution she found for pleasing her randy young husband (the “solution” involved him looking at a lot of porn). At that time, Sandra was ranting about the selfishness of men who insist on having sex with their wives, when the wives just want to be left alone with a Ghirardelli sampler and a good book. She asked, in exasperation, why it's assumed that women with low libidos have a problem, when the real problem is that men are TOO horny!

Apparently, in Sandra's view, men are the bad guys when they want sex more than their wives do, but they're ALSO the bad guys when they don't want sex as much as their wives do. She thought it was wonderful when Joan Sewell told her husband “Leave me alone, and go look at porn on the PC,” but now thinks it's horrible that her friends' hubbies are looking at porn on the PC instead of putting the moves on their own wives!

I don't know Sandra or her husband, so I have no way of knowing what really went on in their marriage. But it's hard not to feel sorry for her husband, who was apparently wrong, in her eyes, no matter WHAT he did sexually.