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The sister in law was certainly rude but jeez...the hostess was even ruder. Yes, it is a pain to listen to someone blather on about mundane bs but one should always be gracious in ones own home. I would simply not invite her back. My dear friend used to take calls from her DIL when we would take a little trip to the coffee shop. Her little DIL would blather on about nothing and I would just be sitting there. I would never say anything and still wouldn't to this day but I also do not hold long conversations when I am with someone else. It is rude.

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Dear Margo, I want to call you out on something. it was your flip, off-hand remark about Borderline Personality Disorder. I have it, and I live with it every day. it seems to me that you have latched on to something that you may think is a symptom of BPD, are using that one criteria (which is not accurate at all) to make your "diagnosis"' there are many, many symptoms associated with BPD, and , for my money, that letter didn't even come close to one. let me tell you, the condition is sheer h*ll. it affects every moment, of every day and every aspect of my life. I have problems controlling my reactions to stress, and I am emotionally extremely fragile. I don't have the "innate" understanding of how to get along with other people, and consequently, I spend most of my time alone. I have taken all the treatment that is available for the disease, and will be working on recovery for the rest of my life. I would request that you please do a bit of research about my condition before slapping the label on someone about you haven't heard nearly enough to justify it. thank you for your time, and, please, find out more about us before someone else gets mislabeled. people in the media are starting to really "throw" the term around, and because the public knows nothing about it, the assumptions they make about us are very negative, to put it mildly. one final comment. I didn't ask for this, I did nothing to "deserve" it, I must live with it. what you said, spreads ignorance and makes things much harder for us. disappointing response. bethsgirl.

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Darn right she owes her an apology.

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In regard to the woman who yelled at her sister-in-law for carrying on a long cell conversation while at her home: The woman was not wrong for being annoyed but she overreacted. By yelling, she not only embarrassed the S-I-L, she embarassed herself. A better response might have been to ask whether S-I-L would like to go to another room to continue her phone conversation where she wouldn't be disturbed. That would have been a subtle but polite hint that the phone conversation was disturbing the others in the room without being so rude as to yell at the woman. I would say that for family peace, she should certainly apologise to the S-I-L for yelling at her. Hopefully (although perhaps unlikely), the S-I-L will then apologise for the cell phone conversation. In any case, the writer should take the high road and apologise since that may be the only way to peaceful family relations not only for her but for other family members who may be lining up to take sides.

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I didn't think I would ever side with a cell phone user but boy, does this woman owe her sister-in-law an apology! The SIL may have been rude but this woman was not only rude but completely uncivilized. in her over reaction Does she whip out her handgun if someone chews with their mouth open? There are so many ways this could have been handled that would actually have accomplished something other than a family rift. She could have spoken to her brother, asking him to point out the rudeness in his wifes actions and suggest he tell her that she upset his family who would appreciate it if she left her cell phone in the car next time. Or she could have waited until the next day, when she felt calmer, and emailed or phoned the woman, telling her in a loving, relaxed way that she may not have realized it but her behavior was rude and they would appreciate no repeats. It appears that immaturity reigns in this family.