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Ms. Deitz, Clearly you are not condoning lying; you are simply giving information and awareness of such situations to our brother, Mick, here. I think you missed his first question and I hope that no one's thwarting his eagerness to go, if that's what he wants. Let me give this a try. You do want this sort of a thing apparently, Mick...of course you do. Next time don't be sluggish. Call sooner than you did, much sooner. If you've already made a good impression, you're reinforcing it with prompt and appropriate action. If it's over from the start, as Susan explained, then you get to move on. No dithering, bro. Next party, next weekend and you're not tripped up for a couple of weeks wondering what to do. Here's how you clear the room, Mick, get rid of these pretenders and clowns. Set a standard: your direct and simple question will be answered directly and simply, unwaveringly and true by the one worthy of your time. This "too busy" issue is insincerity. The correct response is "yes, I will" or "no, thank you". If she can't at least express some delight at having been asked by a gentleman when she says "No" then she might be harboring some psychopathic tendencies or be too engrossed in herself to matter much to you anyhow. Your ship must sail at the appointed moment, sir. You leave on balance with your psyche and dignity intact...or you stay and have audience with the lady and it plays out. Either way a man walks by or a man takes his leave perhaps to return someday.