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Either the first writer has written to another columnist, or this is a "repeat'.

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The advice to "About to pull a Van Gogh" is atrocious! This young woman has already expressed her hesitation for any type of confrontation. Yet you suggest she be blatantly rude. Beside that, this is extremely one-sided advice. There seems to be no consideration for the man's motivations, state-of-mind or feelings. As far as we can tell, she's given him no clear indication that she's not interested in hearing him talk. He probably has no intention of making her feel uncomfortable. She said this has been going on for a year. If she suddenly spouts off at him as if he's done something wrong, she'd be completely out-of-line. And another man would walk away thinking women are crazy bitches. I would suggest to this writer that she politely say that she would prefer her gym time in silence. Many people use it as a meditative time. She could say the rest of her day is loud and hectic and she needs this time to relax, alone, in silence. She could also say that she has to listen to her ipod when she's at the gym now, for business, like recorded conference calls. There is no reason for this young lady to take the grandiose attitude that you suggested. She can politely get her message across. I'm really disappointed to see this advice. It's time for people to unite in humanity. teri http://www.sharedparentingworks.org