I'd figure out some way to get even with the slimeball that LW1 writes about, probably involving a rusty knife, but that's just me. LW2 is a good example of the fact that women grieve alone while men grieve with another woman. This guy is still grieving. I would hate it, too, but if she can't accept that, she needs to move on.

This could come back to cost her the job or future employment. Do a proper internet search and see a lawyer. This not a one time event and he needs to know in legal terms that filming you is a federal offence and that you could bring a civil suit which will haunt his finances for decades. Telling her the Striesand story makes her a victim again.