LW2: I simply do not comprehend individuals who take leave of common sense when in the presence of a pregnant woman, by trying to touch her stomach, giving her cutesy nicknames, asking personal questions, or giving unsolicited advice. I can't get my head around this kind of behavior. Worse, I hear that as often as not, it's other women who are doing this. That makes even less sense.

LW1: Her marriage is over. Now that she and the kids have left, the house feels empty and reality has begun to set in for her soon-to-be-ex husband. I don't suggest that she return to that situation without some real evidence that they've both made progress on the issues that led them to this point, or else they'll simply be back at square one. I don't understand the bit about "installing a chain on the door" or "air pressure in the tires." Is she saying that one of these men checks those things for her and one doesn't? That neither do? That the first guy didn't and she doesn't know if the 2nd guy will or not? Huh?

I think that having a boyfriend while separating from her husband will keep her from being able to see the situation for what it is and feel the pain of the separation with a clear head. She's now got a guy and good sex and is giving up the guy she's been married to for years who watches out for her safety but stinks in bed. I think she needs to drop the boyfriend if she wants nurturing and to save this marriage and see a sex therapist/marriage counselor to help her decide if it is worth saving.

LW1-I think she should go ahead with the divorce. Yes, she may not care about sex in 10 years when she hits menopause; however some women have their sex drive increase. And for most women, sex is also about intimacy. After 20 years of crappy sex, it's long past time to move on. Especially when he isn't willing to please her. A sex therapist can only do so much. And of course, the bigger issue -- the soul sucking of the relationship. As one who has been through this kind of thing, it's totally draining. Even with counseling, sometimes it's just dead and gone. The shelf life has expired. I say, move on and live your life. Men don't like to be alone, for the most part, and as soon as the husband gets a new GF, he'll be fine. Just let him lick his wounds and don't go back to misery!