LW1 - No, "Dean" does not love you. He doesn't. Get your affairs in order and get out. It is never going to get better.

Mother-in-Law Day? What? Did Hallmark ran out of holidays?

dear annie, i live in low income housing/gov't housing aka hud. in maryville tn. we have the most hatefullest and rudest persons working in the office, dishonest and not helpfull nor willing to take time to help. most of the residents living there are uneducated and poor. one man who is mentally delayed who can not read nor write was given a paper to sign saying he was guilty of having people live w/him and was told not to have his grandchildren to ever come on the premises again...he lives w/his sister and no one else lives there. they are his sisters grand children and how can he be told he can not have family come to visit. and how can they make him sigh a paper accusing him of a crime he is not guilty of and he can't read nor write, but had to sign it because they thrreatened him w/eviction...they made this same man go purchase paint and paint his own apartment....and in that same week sent out notices that housing manteintance would be painting for free any one who wanted their apt. painted...how can they be allowed to treat people so cruel and get away w/it...where can i go for help to help people like this man that is mentally delayed...housing walks all over them and treats thems bad....can you advise...what we really need is new employee and management who care for people and not just that almighty dollar.

Re: barbara--Please contact a legal aid office. This is a forum for comments on the letters to Annie. We don't know if they ever read them, and it sounds like you need more help than an advice column can give.

I hope Indentured Servant paid her house notes with a check and saved them! At least that is proof that she owns 9 year's worth of that house. In our state if you are married you automatically own half of what he has. Before wives were allowed to work outside the home, this was consieration for the cooking,cleaning,washing and bedroom services.
Get copies of his bank statements for the lawyer. A divorce would settle that out.

Mother in Law Day. How stupid. If DIL or SIL were close to you and you to them they would use Mothers Day to celebrate you. As for LW1 he doesn't love you. You are there to pay half the bills allowing him to spend his money having fun and doing what HE wants. He has a roommate footing half the bills yet one that (most likely) cooks, cleans and gives him a sex partner. Do you REALLY believe he loves you? LOL

My sister's husband died at 53, suddenly, and even though all they owned included her name, settling his estate was a nightmare. He had lung cancer resulting from agent orange and although he made sure she signed up and eligible for for his government benefits, it took awhile for them to start. In the meantime, she got calls from credit collection agencies who plainly told her they didn't care what she was going to get, HER credit was going to be affected by his death. Nothing is assured legally anyway, under somebody gets insurance companies under reign. I'd bet he has hidden assets too. I'd get a good lawyer and get out now. This is not love in any form. Take what's left of YOUR life and see how he fares without your money. Best of luck!

PS Just fyi , I say he died suddenly because he was given 6 mo. to live and died 30 days later.