This woman and her boy friend should consider "ratio and proportion." She and he should determine the ratio of each of their salaries to their total income. Then the percentage of that income which each one earns should also be the percentage of the total expenses that each pays. At least that way the boy friend is going to understand that if he increases those costs he will also be paying a proportionately larger amount towards them.

I wonder how that man would react if his wife grabbed his crotch in public?

What kind of a self-respecting woman doesn't have a man paying her bills? Of course, Barb should leave her boyfriend. The only problem is if she is overweight. If she is overweight, then she should resign herself to having to support a man.

When my husband and I got married, I made more than he did, despite the fact that he had a college degree and I didn't at the time. For about 3 years, it was like that, but we considered all the money coming in as "our money." Not his, not mine, but ours. As he moved up in his profession, his salary quickly outpaced mine several times over. It is still "our money," and now I don't feel the least bit guilty about not working, because I love staying home. I joke that I didn't marry him for his money, but for his potential. Even when things were really rough, I never worried about who was putting what into the bank account. Somehow, I don't think LW1 and her boyfriend are really partners yet.

The last writer may love to touch his wife's breasts but that wasn't the issue. It was the public touching that is inappropriate. As someone that has worked with a great deal of elderly men in nursing homes, he is still clueless and ignorant. The men being cared for in the nursing homes, most have some sort of dementia. Which of course does not make them realize that behavior is improper. I feel sorry for his wife. It's hard working with people that think they have the right to touch and grope. This man just gave his okay on that behavior. No is no. That doesn't just mean for sex. It also means when your significant other wants to be treated respectfully in public by the man that *supposedly* loves her. After a woman has made it quite clear what is unacceptable behavior in public, only a low intelligent buffoon would think he has the right to touch and grab as he pleases.

Thing is, *they are NOT MARRIED*. She is NOT responsible for his finances unless they are, unless they have some sort of long-standing agreement, or consider themselves married. Clearly, she does not.

They're not married. So, no. It's not THEIR money.

I have to wonder, since he works less, is he doing more of the housework? (If they are living together, that is) Or is he sitting at home on the computer and expecting LW1 to cook and clean after coming home from work?

Re: Ben,You are so funny. I'll let the others comment more on this issue.