How To Smother a Relationship
by Margo Howard
Dear Margo: Last February I met an amazing woman online. We have been talking ever since, and we have met. On those occasions, we have been intimate. In many ways I feel I've found someone with whom I feel safe. However, I have always had many friends of the opposite sex. Recently, my best one, who lives locally, has been dealing with some personal issues. As a friend, I was spending time with her, babysitting for her and listening to her without the judgment she was receiving from her family ...
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Posted by: Jessica
Comment: #1
Mon Apr 14, 2008 3:30 PM
Re: JK
Maybe this man wants to start clean with this woman. He is a 100% playboy. You can have friends in both sexes but be this close to a woman, which he claims a friend...suggests something else is going on besides what he claimed he's doing for her. Whoever is this amazing woman he's referring to deserves better than him.
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Posted by: JK
Comment: #2
Sat Apr 12, 2008 6:09 AM
I hope this woman will dump this man and find one who doesnt have a harem.
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Posted by: Bonnie Simpson
Comment: #3
Sat Apr 12, 2008 8:28 PM
I would give different advice to "Her parenting is an issue with the in-laws." Whenever they criticize her parenting in front of the children or anyone else, I think she could ask pleasantly, "How did you like it when your in-laws did this to you?" I'd lay odds that they were criticized no matter how perfectly their son appears to have been raised.
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Posted by: Jessica
Comment: #4
Tue Apr 15, 2008 2:08 PM
TO: Antonia
There's only one way to stop this craziness. Both of you need to sit down and talk. If you guys want this relationship to work then you need to communicate...Stop browsing on dating sites, and tell him to stop watching those videos. instead, go out and have fun together. There's so much entertainment outside the house. It doesn't have to be extravagant...it can be cheap...go to the park, to the beach..have a picnic..watch movies...Its good that you're both living together...First 2 years is always hard which is the adjustment phase of every relationship.
Like Flum...if he really love this woman he's referring to, he should stop flirting with other women. Friend or just plain acquintances. This will hurt his relationship in the end. He's the one creating the gap between him and the woman he truly loves. If I were Flum, I would not want any other woman in my life. I'll still have friends on both sexes but my priority would be my girlfriend...the woman whom I'll marry and be with forever. I'm a one man-woman, and we're both happy together. True love only comes once in a lifetime...
My advice to you is be honest with each other, let them know how you feel...you need to talk and work things out. Be open minded and compromised. We only lived once, why not make it the best and the happiest. Stop this non-sense/ childish actions. And lastly, pray...God is watching us all!
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Posted by: antonia martinez
Comment: #5
Tue Apr 15, 2008 9:14 AM
Hi Margo
I am very much in love with Lawrence. We met on a dating site and have been together for almost two years. He is a great guy and the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with. However, he is a tad insecure -- his ex was not 100% faithful to him and because of this he does not trust me explicitely. Compounded to this is that, on occasion, I browse thru dating sites as a form of entertainment. It is not often and not a big deal to me. I am not looking for another man as I feel that L. is the perfect man for me. He feels that this is a form of cheating and is a definite deal breaker. I feel like I am being controlled by his demand that I never go on these sites again. I am faithful and totally committed to him. It deeply hurts and angers me that he considers this cheating. I resent this type of 'control' over something so stupid. Yet, it is okay for him to view slutty videos online, which I have no problem with. NOT FAIR
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