Hags To Riches
by Amy Alkon
My boyfriend of a year has his own home, as do I. He needs a roommate to help pay bills, and only a woman has responded. She'll have her own bedroom, but they'll share a bathroom. He advertised in the campus housing office, so she must be young, or younger than I am (my boyfriend and I are both in our mid 30s). I have an issue with him having a female roommate. What if we have a fight and he doesn't answer the phone? What if he drinks beers and watches movies with her? I trust him but believe ...
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Posted by: Carlene Curtis
Comment: #1
Sat May 24, 2008 2:27 PM
So the writer of this letter wants to control who is living with her boyfriend but feels that him saying "I'll be over at your place all the time" is unfair to her.
So, what is it? She wants her personal "my" time and space but is too controlling to allow him to have his? Does she just want to make sure there is no temptation at his house when she is out with her "friends" and leaves him at home (his own home of course)?
I agree that a young co-ed sharing a bathroom and living arrangements would be a temptation for him, especially if he is feeling used and manipulated by his current girlfriend.
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Posted by: Matt
Comment: #2
Tue May 20, 2008 10:40 PM
I'm a bit confused as to why the letter-writer and her boyfriend don't simply sell (or rent out) one of their houses, get married, and move in together. It may be a complex-sounding solution, but it would solve 2 problems at once - the trust issue (of him living with another woman) and his financial issues. Perhaps there's some extenuating circumstance why this isn't possible (the commute would be too far, for instance) but I notice that the idea never is suggested by the columnist or writer...so we have no idea.
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