Classic Ann Landers, May 25
by Ann Landers
Dear Ann Landers: I am planning to marry the love of my life in June. "Phillip" is a terrific guy, except when it comes to my 12-year-old daughter, "Beth," who is very sweet but has attention-deficit disorder. Phillip does not understand that she needs to be reminded of things over and over. When he asks her to do a chore, he expects her to jump to it immediately. He doesn't realize that Beth is distracted easily and forgets. She isn't being deliberately disobedient.
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Posted by: BB
Comment: #1
Sun May 25, 2008 3:07 AM
Let me see. The 12 year old has ADD. Philip, the love of her mom's life, yells at her. She has 6 years of being yelled at so mom can marry "the love of her life?" The love of her life would tolerate her daughter, at the least. I can't imagine the hell this child will go through until she is old enough to get herself out of this situation.
I would run like h--- from this man who is already using techniques that are causing my child to be verbally abused.
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Posted by: KPW
Comment: #2
Tue May 27, 2008 8:24 AM
I am very surprised by this response from Ann. A mother's job is to protect her children first. Putting your child in an abusive situation for your "One True Love" is ridiculous!! How is it that this man loves you, is wonderful and abuses your child.
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Posted by: katokc
Comment: #3
Wed May 28, 2008 1:09 PM
When someone yells at a child it does not mean they are being verbally abusive. It is often hard for single mother's to let another man scold or discipline her children. I agree with Ann. The daughter will learn to love her future step father and have him to thank when she turns out to be a contributor to society, instead of a consumer. Often times mothers are much easier on their children, especially if it has just been the two of them for some time. They become their friend and mother, instead of their mother then friend. It's only natural to have that special close relationship with your child when you are alone. This family will go through a transition period but will end up well once the boundaries have been set that the child is a child and the parents are the parents.
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