Dear Ann Landers: My husband and I have been married for 15 years. We have a wonderful marriage and two terrific children. The problem I am writing about involves my husband's brother. He is gay.
"Rick" is a great person and a devoted uncle to our children. Until now, we haven't had a problem with Rick or his live-in companion, "Dennis." Our children think of Dennis as their uncle's friend. The two of them have been together for 20 years. Everything was fine until R ...
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Posted by: loretta
Comment: #1
Mon Jun 2, 2008 2:56 PM
Re: Jan
The only confusing issue here is the women who does not know the meaning of the word prejudice. To teach a 9 year old acceptance and love no matter what would be great gift that they can pass on when they are older. No wonder why the world is full of prejudice it is due to women like her. As for Ann Landers i am not convinced that she has changed her views either.
STRAIGHT WOMEN IN CALIFORNIA
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Posted by: Moon
Comment: #2
Mon May 12, 2008 6:45 AM
I wish they would winnow out the old letters that show the prejudice that Ann held in her earlier years.
Perhaps a couple decades back it might have been confusing, but I think most nine y/olds would not be all that puzzled at all in this century.
The sooner this unreasonable bigotry dies out the better. It's no different than the stupid hate that my parents and grandparents held towards people with different skin colour.
EDITORS!!! Do your job and edit out these things. There is no need to print anything that will reinforce the bigotry and hate so many feel, and it sets the cause of equality for ALL of us back.
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Posted by: Jan
Comment: #3
Sun May 11, 2008 12:42 PM
No one is "prejudiced " as long as gays stay hidden. When they want to have a normanl relationship or equal rights under the law, it suddenly becomes a relationship that can't be condoned.....and usually in the name of God.
We have an awful lot of people speaking for God and being cruel to the very people he made. I often wonder how he is going to treat that on judgement day when he expressly gave the command to love one another!
They should be joyfully celebrating with this couple; I think it is wonderful that they are together for 20 years.
What's with this husband that he can't be happy for his own brother....must be some of his wife's not-prejudical attitude rubbing off on him.
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Posted by: BB
Comment: #4
Sun May 11, 2008 2:57 PM
If I had a gay brother-in-law who had a partner for 20 years, that man would be as much a part of my life as my brother-in-law. I would celebrate their desire to have a commitment ceremony. I am not comfortable with gays being able to marry with the same ceremony as a heterosexual couple and think they could accomplish better protection under the law with wills and other directives that married couples should have, too; but that issue is entirely one for the state and for the couple involved to decide. I will not ever approve of changing any constitution to reflect any prejudice no matter how much it rankles politicians.
There is no lifestyle in consideration here. It seems there are two people who have been with each other for 20 years and faithful as we would hope every heterosexual couple would do, too. The daughter may be too old to be a flower girl but she isn't too young to understand how much her uncle and his life-long-partner mean to each other. She can't catch homosexuality from them.
Whatever else, the parents need to attend the ceremony and celebrate a great life the brother-in-law and his partner have.
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Posted by: Moe
Comment: #5
Sun May 11, 2008 7:32 AM
I like how this writer says that she is "not predjudice," but that she doesn't condone that "lifestyle". If that isn't predjuduice, what is? Also, you claim the 9-year-old girl will be "confused". About what? She knows the score. She won't go to the ceremony, whom she has seen together her entire life, see the ceremony and turn into a bad, bad homosexual who's parent's are not "predudiced" against.
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Posted by: Mary
Comment: #6
Tue May 13, 2008 12:02 PM
Yeah, I noticed the hypocrisy of that woman saying she "wasn't predudiced" yet "didn't condone that lifestyle". Not only was she prejudiced, she was ignorant! Being gay isn't a "lifestyle"any more than being straight is!
Gay people are born, not created. Who would purposely choose a "lifestyle"that would cause them so much grief from ignoramuses like this woman?
It's too bad, that daughter missed a golden opportunity to learn and become less insular than her mother.
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Posted by: Ava
Comment: #7
Tue May 13, 2008 7:25 AM
Wow
this must be an oldie.. I cannot imagine Ann Landers of today to answer the way she did..
Bravo that a gay couple wanted to celebrate their love and devotion to each other with marriage..
And for the writer to say she wasn't prejudice was a contridiction of her intention.
Hopefully, she will read what she wrote (30 years ago?) and write back in.
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