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i just read your article about the woman who gained the extra 50 pounds and the 19 year olds comment. i'm almost 36 and i am a mother of 5 beautiful kids. i'm 5ft 2in tall and i weigh 110 pounds. i hate being called a m.i.l.f but thats what my children's friends refer to me as and alot of people say i should take it as a compliment. my kids are 18,14,11,7,and 2 years old. i don't know why when women get married and have kids they use that as an excuse to get fat and let themselves go,it sickens me. when you meet and fall in love with someone you don't assume that 5years down the road they are gonna be hard on the eyes. yes you love the person you marry but i'm sorry when they let themselves go you fall out of love because that is not the same person you fell in love with and you lose your sexual desire for them but that doesn't mean you don't still love them. these over weight women should learn self control,do crunches instead of snacking,go for a power walk every night instead of sitting in front of the t.v. and take a little bit of time each day to fix your self up a little. i have married men all the time tell me they wish that their wives looked good like me and my husband faithfully tells me daily how lucky he is to have me. woman need to quit using having kids and being married as an excuse to be fat. YOUR LAZY THATS WHY YOUR FAT!!!!!. Quit blaming husbands for looking else where when its the womans own fault he's looking else where. you cant help what your attracted to. its ok to gain 5 or 10 pounds but 50? sorry if i sound rude but i'm frustrated with women complaining about their weight when its their own fault they got fat. at my kids schools i speak to alot of moms,1 school year they talk about their wonderful marriage and the great sex they have then they have a baby and get fat and the next school year their talking about how their husbands hardly want sex and they don't know why and i reply with its because you gained so much weight that your not as attractive maybe you should work out,sad to say i only have 6 friends now and we are all moms who have had several children,no plastic surgeries and we don't look like we have ever had kids. me and my husband have been together 15 wonderful years and the only time we haven't had sex is right after i've had a baby but by the time our babies reach 6 days old we are having sex again. i don't care what anyone thinks or says if you get married weighing 110 and 5 years down the road weigh 140 don't get mad when your husband quits having sex with you and starts sneaking into the bathroom with a playboy magazine. doesn't mean he doesn't love you it just means hes not sexually attracted to you. women who claim they are depressed and thats why they over eat well thats just an excuse to be a pig. depression is all in your head. this is your life,you can choose if you want to be depressed or not. i hate hearing i'm depressed because my husband left me or because i'm late on my house payment,etc...those are lame reasons to be depressed. how about hearing you only have 3 months to live now thats a reason to be depressed. people you are who you make you to be and your life is what you make it to be. don't just breathe actually live. we are only hear for a short time so live each day like its your last. btw i am a stay at home mom and i am with my children 24-7. they go on my walks with me and we work out together at home as a family. signed M.I.L.F in Arcadia,california.

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I am not referring to this particular case, but I think that this column, just like every other, is based on subjective opinion and personal experience of the author and personal experiences of other people, so called "experts" that she talks to. I found that these generalized opinions and advices have nothing to do with my own experience, so I think this should not be taken seriously, merely as a form of entertainment.

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I so love this column. I'm reading the 19 year old's letter feeling almost angry and thinking that she really needs to gain some life experience before she gets so judgemental but then I have the very great pleasure of reading a witty, insightful and intelligent response. It gets no better than this.